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Of course we've all seen it - adult ass men calling themselves "girls". But what about other women?

When I was in my early 20's I'd use girl out of habit but once I got to a certain point, referring to myself as a girl felt weird, and I hate when other people do it to me still because it feels very infantilizing. I might look young but I'm still an adult woman.

I was just wondering, what about you all? Do you still use girl, or if not around what age did you stop? Do you find it odd for women who keep referring to themselves as girls past a certain age?

Of course we've all seen it - adult ass men calling themselves "girls". But what about other women? When I was in my early 20's I'd use girl out of habit but once I got to a certain point, referring to myself as a girl felt weird, and I hate when other people do it to me still because it feels very infantilizing. I might look young but I'm still an adult woman. I was just wondering, what about you all? Do you still use girl, or if not around what age did you stop? Do you find it odd for women who keep referring to themselves as girls past a certain age?

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I still call it Girls Drinking Weekend when my high school friends and I get together, and, you guessed it, drink too much. We are all over 60. I suppose we should be calling it Crones Drinking Weekend, but that sounds like we would have to behave like adults. Yes, to your point, it IS infantalizing, but sometimes its fun to re-visit youthful things. However, I am the one who gets to decide that, not some clown in the office.

I see this a lot, when women friends get together, they call it "going out with the girls". If you have been friends since girlhood, it isn't surprising that you would still call it girls' drinking weekend!

I think it's fair when a group of women decide to call it that, but I just hate it when it's random people, and I hate it when TIMs call themselves that. I definitely still sometimes say "girls night" myself when I get together with friends.

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I haven't yet I guess. I'm in my mid 20s and i think of myself as a "woman" and "girl" interchangeably. But girl not as a child, just in like the fun colloquial sense. Like "girl you won't believe what the price of chicken thighs at the store's gone up to." And other boring mundane shit like that. Lol...

I think it really depends on context. Like others have said a "girls night" is kinda ageless, same with "girls' trip". Frankly I'm ok with even old women calling themselves girls. it's when other people do it when it gets weird. Like when it's clearly outsiders trying to fetishize youth etc.

I tend to use "girl" more in a silly sense and "woman" in a serious sense.

in the Russian language, there is word basically equivalent to the male "guys" in English, which used for women and girls of pretty much all ages, but it means "young woman", basically. it's "девушка" (devushka). woman is женщина (zhenschina) and girl (child) is девочка (devochka).

apparently, Zhenschina is used for women who are older than like 40? although it's the basic and most common word for "woman". and calling younger women zhenschina makes them feel "too old" and insulted. devushka is a good replacement, because it avoids the infantisation of devochka and the insult of zhenschina.

I'm not Russian myself, I just learned it online for 2 years so i might be wrong.

I guess English doesn't have the equivalent of that but the word "girl" is used that way a lot.

[–] ghoul2 Ghost w/the most 2 points

I took russian in college haha now i do duolingo and my skills are dying. My professor was in her late 40s and said that, if you address a woman as devushka it's respectful, it's a compliment toward an older woman too. I like the word too. I wish we had something equivalent, I guess "ma'am" is for all ages where I live but in some places "miss" is the correct word... but yeah... it would be convenient to have an equivalent to devushka.

When I was 18 and got to college and suddenly everyone was using the word "woman" and I realized that I was grown up.

I'm 22 and I still go back and forth between calling myself a girl/woman. Have been trying to phase out "girl" since I turned 20 though, not to much avail yet.

at 19, I call myself "girl" more than "woman". i don't feel that grown up yet lol.

Probably around 25. (I'm 30 now) For those of you who are new to it and worried that it feels "weird", push through it. It becomes second nature & your new norm pretty quickly. I'm at the point now where I ENJOY referring to myself as woman because it feels powerful and self-assured.

It throws me off when I'm around other adults who refer to grown women as girls. I don't understand how THEY don't feel weird. They wouldn't call a 30+ looking male a boy, so why do it to women?

I left home to start my own life when I was 16, so probably around then

mmm to be quite honest i rarely refer to myself or call myself anything. At some point (somewhere in my late teens) people stopped addressing me as a girl, and started addressing me as a "madam" (or ma'am, or "mrs"), as is polite/socially acceptable in my country. All (adult looking) women regardless of age or marital status are addressed this way.

The first time I was addressed like that, it was a child talking to me. And that made me feel old LOL. Cause I was still a teenager myself when that happened.

As many others have said, probably around 24-25. I don't find it odd in the sense of saying something like "I'm going to get together with the girls" at any age but I do occasionally find it a bit immature if someone 25+ is still refering to themselves individually as a girl.

Same, around 20. At 18, I wanted to be called by my last name by teachers, but I didnt feel quite..."woman"

And then life happens, I had a baby mid-twenties and that flipped the switch in my head. When I have to be an adult, I am a woman. Not a girl anymore. And I dont think there is anything that helps with maturity that fast like a baby.

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