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Of course we've all seen it - adult ass men calling themselves "girls". But what about other women?

When I was in my early 20's I'd use girl out of habit but once I got to a certain point, referring to myself as a girl felt weird, and I hate when other people do it to me still because it feels very infantilizing. I might look young but I'm still an adult woman.

I was just wondering, what about you all? Do you still use girl, or if not around what age did you stop? Do you find it odd for women who keep referring to themselves as girls past a certain age?

Of course we've all seen it - adult ass men calling themselves "girls". But what about other women? When I was in my early 20's I'd use girl out of habit but once I got to a certain point, referring to myself as a girl felt weird, and I hate when other people do it to me still because it feels very infantilizing. I might look young but I'm still an adult woman. I was just wondering, what about you all? Do you still use girl, or if not around what age did you stop? Do you find it odd for women who keep referring to themselves as girls past a certain age?

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I still call it Girls Drinking Weekend when my high school friends and I get together, and, you guessed it, drink too much. We are all over 60. I suppose we should be calling it Crones Drinking Weekend, but that sounds like we would have to behave like adults. Yes, to your point, it IS infantalizing, but sometimes its fun to re-visit youthful things. However, I am the one who gets to decide that, not some clown in the office.

I see this a lot, when women friends get together, they call it "going out with the girls". If you have been friends since girlhood, it isn't surprising that you would still call it girls' drinking weekend!

I think it's fair when a group of women decide to call it that, but I just hate it when it's random people, and I hate it when TIMs call themselves that. I definitely still sometimes say "girls night" myself when I get together with friends.

Same, around 20. At 18, I wanted to be called by my last name by teachers, but I didnt feel quite..."woman"

And then life happens, I had a baby mid-twenties and that flipped the switch in my head. When I have to be an adult, I am a woman. Not a girl anymore. And I dont think there is anything that helps with maturity that fast like a baby.

In my twenties/ early thirties I was pretty strict about this, but as I get older, I'm starting to love calling myself and my friends girls, on occasion. Like a term of endearment or to highlight something particularly feminine in an approving way. I would hate it if any man referred to me as a girl though, or for it to happen in any kind of formal setting. I'm only a girl with my girls.

Probably around age 30, for me. Though I can’t recall referencing myself as either through most of my 20s, so I’m not sure when exactly I “crossed over” mentally.

I'm 22 and I still go back and forth between calling myself a girl/woman. Have been trying to phase out "girl" since I turned 20 though, not to much avail yet.

at 19, I call myself "girl" more than "woman". i don't feel that grown up yet lol.

early 30s 😬

Me too, and it was largely informed by becoming more feminist. It still felt strangely formal to say “woman” but I did it. Now it’s easy.

Like another comment here, I still occasionally use “girls” for informal things like “girls night out” or referring to “girl friends”. Less so lately though, and usually with a bit of cheek.

Only the past 4/5 years when I started to discover terfism/proper feminism. I think somehow I associated 'woman' with being derogatory.

same! I even avoided women-centered spaces and events because of that and I regret it deeply now.

I never used it when I was younger but now that I’m pushing sixty, I find myself slipping into use it to describe individual women much younger than me. I gotta work on that.

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