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Personally I can't stand them. But almost all of my friends love them and they're so upset that I don't want to watch them. Recently I capitulated to watching hereditary, which features a little girls head being knocked right off

I find this kind of shit disturbing. I see enough awful shit in my day to day job. Side note, does anybody have any tips on how to get my friends to fuck off about watching gory movies?

Edit: sorry I'm not sure if I spoilered the gory part properly, if someone could let me know that would be good

Personally I can't stand them. But almost all of my friends love them and they're so upset that I don't want to watch them. Recently I capitulated to watching hereditary, which features `a little girls head being knocked right off` I find this kind of shit disturbing. I see enough awful shit in my day to day job. Side note, does anybody have any tips on how to get my friends to fuck off about watching gory movies? Edit: sorry I'm not sure if I spoilered the gory part properly, if someone could let me know that would be good

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they're so upset that I don't want to watch them

Thats odd, isnt it. Its like being the only one who doesnt want to drink or smoke weed, and the rest of the group have a problem with it.

Personally, I've always been really into horror movies, and I do have an affinity for over the top gore. Partially it's because I really like practical effects; I don't have any interest in a gory movie it if it uses CGI. Partially it's because I just seem to have a particular interest in the prurient, and have since I was a kid. I'm a huge fan of movies in general, but I have a real soft spot for the mean, stupid, nasty, and ridiculous stuff. I am not the kind of person who enjoys a movie because it's "bad"; I don't like irony. Even a crummy movie can have shards of total wackadoo genius in it and that's what I'm out to find a lot of the time. Maybe just one image that really sticks with me, or a particular actor delivering a line. There are just so many horror movies out there because they're easy to make on a shoestring, so doing research and obtaining the ones that are really hard to find is a real pleasure of mine. I guess it's a hobby for me. I know it doesn't necessarily jibe with some of my politics, but it's something I love. I also really desensitized myself to gore in general as a teenager and young adult, because I liked shock sites, so seeing it in a movie doesn't bother me much. As an adult I kind of regret letting that real life stuff into my brain. The real stuff is different to me. I don't want to see people die anymore; it makes me feel very sad.

I disagree that these kind of movies are enjoyed solely by people without trauma, and that those with it can't stand them. I don't want to go into it but I've been through "some shit", so to speak, and it hasn't lessened my enjoyment of the genre. Plenty of people with very real and undeniable trauma are fans of these kind of films.

I think it's rude of them to push you to do something you clearly don't enjoy and find disturbing. I'm not sure how it could be fun to sit there with somebody who's uncomfortable and not having a fun time. Reminds me anecdotally of this time as a kid where my friends were all swinging on this role swing that swung high and far over a cliff overlooking a beach. To fall would have killed you, or at least majorly fucked you up. I was terrified of it and wouldn't get on, and they all made fun of me. More than the swing, it bothered me how they made me feel like crap for not wanting to subject myself to something that frightened and upset me, like I was stupid or a coward or something. I wonder if it's that sort of thing, where they think a little bit that you're a scaredy cat and find it humorous, or if maybe they feel a little insulted that you don't want to share in something they find enjoyable and can't understand why you wouldn't feel the same.

I think the best solution is to be firm about what you don't like and not to let them push you into it if you can. You know, with all the nasty movies I love, I can't watch anything with a medical setting where somebody gets tied to a bed, and the only movie about a hospital that I'll watch is One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. I cannot explain to you how many times I have refused to watch Girl Interrupted again and been promptly complained at or made fun of lol. But I just say I don't want to, and I keep obstinately saying it and being ruder and ruder the more someone pushes me, so maybe staunch refusal will work for you. Have you ever gotten to be the one to choose the movie? Maybe that would be nice. You should get to pick sometime too! Your taste is just as respectable and cool.

I'm with you--just don't watch it. Why f**k over your mind worse than reality and social media already do? And once seen, you can't un-see it. Protect your mind.

I HATE HATE HATE torture porn movies—any form of cruelty to animals or people.

I will avoid or fast-forward unexpected scenes that show it, even the extended fight scenes in thrillers and action movies don't interest me. I'm much more interested in storylines.

I don't know, in my life, I've seen a lot of blood, guts & pain compared to the average person so I really don't get the "entertainment" value. Guess I know what it looks like in real life. I don't need that shit living in my head.

It makes it bloody hard to find a good movie though.

It makes it bloody hard to find a good movie though.

https://www.doesthedogdie.com/ is a great site to check media for unwanted content. I wouldn’t say it makes finding a good movie easy but it’s definitely saved me from unexpected surprises and wasted time.

I know you didn’t like the movie, but wasn’t Toni Collette’s performance Oscar worthy? It’s a shame the academy didn’t even nominate her…

[–] otterstrom 9 points Edited

Movies are waking versions of what our brain does with dreaming: processing.

So if an individual feels plagued by the unknown, a general anxiety of “darkness”, a movie in the horror genre— which typically has a focal embodiment of “evil” which is fought and beaten— can be cathartic. Variations in which there is no victory, or wherein individuals or societies are consumed/turned, or in which there is a “willful” joining with the force mirrors deeper levels of individual or societal-level trauma, hopelessness, and grappling with the “shadow”; sometimes just seeing what your experience feels like… not “being alone” in it, even without solutions, can be a balm.

I was think it’s super interesting to see what the embodiment is too: man made? Natural? Origin curiosities.

Same reason why people ride rollercoasters. They on a subconscious level feel good for surviving being frightened with full returns maybe?

Gore bothers me much less than the emotional distress usually involved with it. Little girl's decapitated head? Okay. Her mother discovering it and absolutely shrieking? Jesus Christ. Nope.

As for why people like it? A few guesses. They like the shock value. Blood attracts human attention. If you're lucky you don't usually see gore in your day to day life, so it's novel to watch. We're more detached from the brutality of life and it fascinates us. If the movie uses practical effects, you might be interested in the "art" of that. Some like stuff as high octane and absurd as possible and the higher and bloodier the body count, the better. Some like the thrill of it in the same way some like roller coasters.

I really disliked Hereditary. I don't really like gore, and I really don't like gore against children. Her mother screaming when she discovers what happened is wrenching for me. And then on top of all of that, I just didn't really like the story much, so I felt like I went through that scene for nothing.

I can handle some early cheesy slasher type movies where the gore is off screen, and I love ghost-type horror/suspense, but I really don't see the appeal to things like so-called "torture porn". It's fun to be a little bit scared during a movie; it's not fun to be repulsed/disgusted/etc. At least not for me.

and I love ghost-type horror/suspense, but I really don't see the appeal to things like so-called "torture porn". It's fun to be a little bit scared during a movie; it's not fun to be repulsed/disgusted/etc

I'm the same. I like The Others and Signs, stuff like that. Movies where it's kind of creepy or suspenseful, maybe even jump scares. But I don't need to see people being mutilated or tortured. It's sick.

I think it’s like eating spicy food or something there’s an adrenaline rush that comes when you are scared, anticipating or witnessing violence and people want to experience that rush of adrenaline. I’m not one of them.

Some horror movies are like eating spicy food, but when the only "taste" is the feeling of your tongue burning from the capsaicin.

And this is coming from a South Asian.

I don't know. You can get used to eating spicy food - I know I did. I don't think I can get used to watching such stuff

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