111

*Please keep in mind that some things that I talk about in this post may be specific to my culture

I’m a teenager but have recently had some of my male teachers talk to us students about women’s age and their reproductive ability. Probably just a coincidence, but it pissed me off.

Anyways, I just had a realization that men online and offline constantly insulting women in their 30s for their "diminishing" attractiveness and reproductive ability don’t actually want women in their 30s to notice those insults. They want to scare teen girls or women in their 20s who are still unsure and ignorant about matters of life. They keep using scare tactics to steer us towards marriage and childbirth at an early age. The societal pressure to make us marry a man before the age of 30, to make us give birth to a man’s child before the age of 30, is so immense.

At the same time, they push this image that it is primarily the women who are in a hurry to get married while men want to remain a “free bachelor”. I think in real life it is the exact opposite. Men don’t admit it, but I think they really REALLY want to get married and have children.

The way they treat women so overcritically is quite like haggling to bring the price down of something you want to buy. Collective male shaming of women's age pressures women into lowering their standards by making them feel like they are always running out of time and losing their “value” as a woman.

The way people depict women in their 30s is something that can easily make many younger women controlled by fear. The media also act as if a woman who is unmarried by their 30s will be societally outcast, stripped of her social status, and lose all her respectability in the eyes of other people. Does this actually happen in real life to women in their 30s? No. But the haunting image sure does work on women in their 20s. They are intentionally trying to lower women’s self-esteem into marrying them, dating them, giving birth to their children. Women who successfully survive this period of life without being tricked manage to do fine and thrive in life. Men know that actual older women don't give a fig about their pathetic opinions, and instead focus on converting young women.

I can’t believe my teachers are already starting to implicitly pressure their female students about marriage and childbirth. I'm not going to fall for the stupid trap. I have seen so many women whose lives have been ruined because of their husbands but not a single woman whose life has been ruined because they did not get married to a man.

*Please keep in mind that some things that I talk about in this post may be specific to my culture I’m a teenager but have recently had some of my male teachers talk to us students about women’s age and their reproductive ability. Probably just a coincidence, but it pissed me off. Anyways, I just had a realization that men online and offline constantly insulting women in their 30s for their "diminishing" attractiveness and reproductive ability don’t actually want women in their 30s to notice those insults. They want to scare teen girls or women in their 20s who are still unsure and ignorant about matters of life. They keep using scare tactics to steer us towards marriage and childbirth at an early age. The societal pressure to make us marry a man before the age of 30, to make us give birth to a man’s child before the age of 30, is so immense. At the same time, they push this image that it is primarily the women who are in a hurry to get married while men want to remain a “free bachelor”. I think in real life it is the exact opposite. Men don’t admit it, but I think they really REALLY want to get married and have children. The way they treat women so overcritically is quite like haggling to bring the price down of something you want to buy. Collective male shaming of women's age pressures women into lowering their standards by making them feel like they are always running out of time and losing their “value” as a woman. The way people depict women in their 30s is something that can easily make many younger women controlled by fear. The media also act as if a woman who is unmarried by their 30s will be societally outcast, stripped of her social status, and lose all her respectability in the eyes of other people. Does this actually happen in real life to women in their 30s? No. But the haunting image sure does work on women in their 20s. They are intentionally trying to lower women’s self-esteem into marrying them, dating them, giving birth to their children. Women who successfully survive this period of life without being tricked manage to do fine and thrive in life. Men know that actual older women don't give a fig about their pathetic opinions, and instead focus on converting young women. I can’t believe my teachers are already starting to implicitly pressure their female students about marriage and childbirth. I'm not going to fall for the stupid trap. I have seen so many women whose lives have been ruined because of their husbands but not a single woman whose life has been ruined because they did not get married to a man.

27 comments

The message is definitely intended to hit all women. Men want you to feel over the hill at 38 so you're grateful that a 55 year old wants you. Or for your retirement community neighbors to pressure you to date an ailing 74 year old when you're an energetic 61.

Men live in a dream world where they can fuck around through their 20s, become sought-after bachelors in their 30s, finally select a gorgeous 24 year old fiancee at 38, and then have kids in their 40s. They confidently tell each other that men age better than women, that most young women are attracted to men 10-20 years older, and that there's no effect on their sex appeal or sperm quality as they age. All dead wrong. And if it was true, they wouldn't need to convince women of it. We'd see young women naturally chasing bald, paunchy men, instead of a toxic sex industry that depends on female suffering to supply older men with young women for cash.

I'm at an age where my friends who did marry older (all in the same artist/writer world social circle in our early 20s) are now leaving their husbands. It started when everyone was about 33-35 and it's been a steady parade of divorces ever since. Turns out, even if you convince a young woman that you're a sophisticated catch, she'll still get sick of your controlling ass as she gets older and smarter, and leave you to turn 60 by yourself. Somehow men never think about that possibility when they hunt for young wives.

Turns out, even if you convince a young woman that you're a sophisticated catch, she'll still get sick of your controlling ass as she gets older and smarter, and leave you to turn 60 by yourself.

This does give me some consolation. For me it just feels so against nature that all these healthy young women are steered into marrying old, unappealing men with abominable sperm qualities. I'm glad that they are leaving their old husbands.

Men live in a dream world where they can fuck around through their 20s, become sought-after bachelors in their 30s, finally select a gorgeous 24 year old fiancee at 38, and then have kids in their 40s

This is beyond gross to me. Like, hello, I would not like my children to come from 40 year old sperms. The audacity is quite amazing.

with abominable sperm qualities

We really need to start talking about this more as a society.