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Good, wearing a skirt should not "turn you into a girl"
Bad, it is appropriation of female traditions
Good (other)
Bad (other)
Other

I know a man (cis and straight, he never had any doubts about his gender and orientation) that owns several skirts. He often wears them around the house - because it's comfy and stylish, not because of some weird fetish. The skirts were sewn to his measure from a fabric he chose.

He now plans to start wearing them outside the house, i.e in public. Is it a good thing from a feminist point of view in your opinion?

I know a man (cis and straight, he never had any doubts about his gender and orientation) that owns several skirts. He often wears them around the house - because it's comfy and stylish, not because of some weird fetish. The skirts were sewn to his measure from a fabric he chose. He now plans to start wearing them outside the house, i.e in public. Is it a good thing from a feminist point of view in your opinion?

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Other- conflicted.

We've seen multiple men and boys (some trans identifying but surely not all) wearing skirts in public and using that newfound freedom to sexually harass or rape women. Like the Loudoun rapist or the TIM who filmed himself masturbating in the women's room in a skirt. It is so much easier to flash your penis at someone if you're wearing a skirt with no underwear, just lift the skirt a couple seconds and drop the skirt and nobody else would know about it if they weren't looking in his direction those few seconds. Much faster and easier to cover up his crime than if he was wearing pants. So I would probably look askance at a man wearing a skirt in public, the same if I saw a man in a trench coat who didn't appear to be wearing pants underneath it.

The very fact that wearing women's clothes is a fetish is just....no. I don't want men wearing skirts in public if it's sexually appealing or exciting to them.

Sure women wear pants, but the act of wearing pants doesn't turn any of us on now does it?

So maybe it's not "fair," and this opinion isn't coming from a "feminist" perspective, just an average woman and her 2 cents. Of course wearing a skirt doesn't diminish your manhood but there are other reasons for side-eyeing men in skirts. Maybe if men behaved better it would be easier to decouple men wearing skirts from sexual deviants.

In Burma men typically wear what we would consider a really long skirt (longyi) and it would be cool if Western men could wear something like that and behave. But in their culture it's normal for men to wear longyi so the act of wearing a skirt wouldn't excite them. The very act of breaking taboos is part of what makes it sexually exciting, I think.

thought of something else i want to say:

So how do we get from a world where the act of wearing a skirt turns fetishists on to our ideal world where men and women can wear whatever appropriate clothing they want without it being a statement or sexual act? I have no idea and I leave that up to the big thinkers.

Start with male entitlement and sexual violence. The clothing isn't the issue, it's a symptom.