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So Im 5'2 used to be 230 lbs and now I'm 156lbs (goal 120) but my breasts didn't shrink at all. Not even a centimeter. My doctor told me to try weight loss first before breast reduction and I get that so I have. But nothing now except them causing me a neverending amount of pain and numbness and tingling. It feels like absolutely no bra I buy offers any kind of legitimate support. They are so heavy and bothersome I almost wanna cry about it. It's causing issues in my shoulders, my hands, my chest, my elbows, my back, my breathing, how I walk, what I can wear. Everything in my closet doesn't fit right and every day I'm trying on 80 different shirts just to try and be comfortable at all at work. It's gotten so bad I've barely moved or done anything outside of work. I plan on seeing the doctor again about this but even if I do the process to actualy get reduction (and if it's even covered :/) will take many months and probably longer than usual because covid as well. I do exercise a lot bc yes I count my job as that because I'm on my feet 9 hrs stocking. So I have gained muscle a lot and tried that to help but it hasn't either. Please does anyone have anything I can do in the meantime I'm losing my fucking mind. and if I don't get approved or covered idk what I'm going to do. I don't want to live like this forever.

So Im 5'2 used to be 230 lbs and now I'm 156lbs (goal 120) but my breasts didn't shrink at all. Not even a centimeter. My doctor told me to try weight loss first before breast reduction and I get that so I have. But nothing now except them causing me a neverending amount of pain and numbness and tingling. It feels like absolutely no bra I buy offers any kind of legitimate support. They are so heavy and bothersome I almost wanna cry about it. It's causing issues in my shoulders, my hands, my chest, my elbows, my back, my breathing, how I walk, what I can wear. Everything in my closet doesn't fit right and every day I'm trying on 80 different shirts just to try and be comfortable at all at work. It's gotten so bad I've barely moved or done anything outside of work. I plan on seeing the doctor again about this but even if I do the process to actualy get reduction (and if it's even covered :/) will take many months and probably longer than usual because covid as well. I do exercise a lot bc yes I count my job as that because I'm on my feet 9 hrs stocking. So I have gained muscle a lot and tried that to help but it hasn't either. Please does anyone have anything I can do in the meantime I'm losing my fucking mind. and if I don't get approved or covered idk what I'm going to do. I don't want to live like this forever.

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Along with what another commenter said about finding ways to take pressure off your shoulders-- might be crazy, but could you try a corset? It seems like that way at least the support would not be hanging off of your shoulders, more from your hips.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Good luck! Please push hard for a reduction ASAP, this sounds completely miserable.

I agree with this suggestion -- you don't need to tight-lace it. That's where all the internal damage comes from (i.e. that famous scene in Gone with the Wind).

But a well-fitting, not-too-tight corset offers support that extends past the breasts. You can also get one with straps -- a corset could definitely help distribute the weight better.

First off, good for you for losing a lot of weight. I am sorry your boobs are not cooperating, but I am sure your overall health has improved!

Second, I think you should really push for the reduction and for it to be covered. Especially since you lost a lot of weight and saw zero improvement. Your symptoms and the degree it is affecting your health, comfort, and well-being absolutely should be enough. Start journaling to keep track of how it's impacting you each day so you can really make your doctor understand. It will be a long process but get it started now.

Third, and I will fully admit that this is just a shot in the dark that may not help, but I wonder if some sort of compression garment would be more comfortable than a bra? Not a binder, obviously, but like a tight stretchy tanktop or body suit. I don't know, maybe that's a crazy thought. I just feel like it might take some of the weight off your shoulders.

Maybe physical therapy? I know it sounds hopeless but they really can give you relatively easy exercises that can help improve your posture which might have some positive impact. It's possible that your gait and body mechanics haven't adjusted to your weight loss so maybe your posture has actually gotten worse.

I am sorry! It sounds like it's beyond what you should have to tolerate and a reduction would make a big difference. Hang in there <3

PT helped me with back issues from congenital scoliosis. It helped a LOT. I wished I’d gone sooner. Just throwing in that even though it’s not the same thing.

I have a good friend who is a PT and she says that it is extremely effective for many things if people do the exercises. It's very much evidence based! I am glad it helped you! That's awesome 💪

I think you should get a second opinion from another doctor or consult with a plastic surgeon about breast reduction.

I totally feel you. I used to weigh 260 lbs and my bra size was 40dd, i lost 130 lbs and my breasts are still huge at 38dd. I just wish i had normal breasts. I can't use a cute dress or cute top without looking inappropriate. Sometimes clothes that are not erotic at all looks erotic just because of my breasts size. I wish i could afford breast reduction surgery but i can't

That's like my exact measurements too and DD can weigh 15-20lbs on each

Honestly, reddit's /r/abrathatfits guide is pretty good: most bra support is about fit. That said, bra sizing only captures a few of the important variables, so it's still dicey.

The Panache Sports bra, the Enell sports bra, and the Decent Exposures unbra could all be worth a try. Enell and Decent Exposures both do custom if you're not in their standard range. Enell and Decent Exposures are also pretty minimizing which makes clothes for much more easily. They're more compressive than normal bras, which isn't super comfortable, but is probably helpful given your struggles. And they're more tolerant of size fluctuations than an underwire bra.

I'm also learning to sew my own bras. Not really at the point of being able to help other people with this yet (though that's the goal!), but it's a good option if you're crafty. It turns out that ideal underwire shape varies with breast size in a way that really is not accounted for by even the best large cup commercial bras.

I sew a bra for myself at one point, for exercising. I found thin (1/8") elastic pulled really tight worked like an underwire but was much more comfortable. I needed something so I could do vigorous up-and-down movements without my breasts sliding below the cups.

Thank you so much for the suggestions!

No problem.

I had horrible shoulder pain before learning about bra fit, so it's something I feel quite strongly about.

Panache goes by /r/abrathatfits sizing, Enell and Decent Exposures have their own size charts that should be followed for their bras.

If you are stocking you almost certainly have developed repetitive motion injuries in your upper body. Some of this is likely due to the way you move to cope with your chest size (avoiding certain movements in particular, trying to support your breasts as you support carrying items, etc.) but it is literally inevitable that stocking will cause or exacerbate a lot of the problems you name.

(I had a warehouse job for a while, then did stocking for a few years, I now do unloading/stocking as part of my job now.)

I do think physical therapy is in order and even if it doesn't get rid of your pain entirely, it can help you cope in the meanwhile with the demands of your job until you can find a better way to manage the pain associated with your breasts.

For what it's worth, I am a J+ cup and I don't wear a bra anymore but that was its own journey that I can talk about if you are interested. I often recommend mild to moderate compression garments (i.e. those worn as sportswear) to women for whom bras aren't working-- either by themselves or under/over a bra. This might be reasonable if you are stocking as it's an intensely active job and like the suggestions about corsets, they distribute the support throughout your torso rather than on your shoulders or around your ribs.

One thing I did while I was binding which I think is a relatively harmless trick is that you can wear a sports bra backwards under another sports bra/compression garment. If you're not actually aiming to bind this trick will simply keep your breasts in place instead of hurting you. It helps hold things "down and out" which is actually the natural position of your breasts and lets your full pectoral muscles/ribcage support their weight against your body, instead of forcing them "up" or flattening them like pancakes directly against your chest. The bra strategy-- i.e. "up" or pancaking-- I think can cause pretty bad nerve-y type pain from your nipple up through your "tail" of your breast into your armpit during movement as it tends to fold or smash larger breasts against themselves.