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Ya'll, this month I feel like I've been possessed and need an exorcism.

Usually, my PMS is very mild. I get very intense cramps due to my IUD, but I've learned how to manage pain. Any mood issues I have is really due to being in so much pain.

For some reason, this month I don't have the awful cramps but I do have hot flashes and THE SHORTEST TEMPER IN THE WORLD. Like for the last 3 days I've been stewing in sweat and ready to break something. I almost cussed out my manager for being a slow fucking talking, rambling, fill the air with your nasty hot ass breath old man. I especially get so fucking angry by people who can just keep talking and talking but saying nothing of substance, SHUT. UP.

It's like I'm kinda wired up, and then I sweat, and that just makes me ANGRY. And then I get chills and get even more uncomfortable and annoyed smh.

I'm so over it y'all. I'm sick of being angry. (now I'm tearing up smdh). So annoying how anger is only acceptable to be released if you have a "good reason". What about because this is how my body is wired? There's always someone around, wish they would go away and leave me alone, I just wanna yell and be belligerent in peace (heh).

Actually, what is the best way to communicate something like this? I've tried to just ask for space but then people wanna know what's wrong, and you say PMS, but then they don't really take it seriously. Like, LEAVE ME ALONE this shit is REAL and I WILL hurt your feelings!! NOBODY WANTS THAT SO GO AWAY. What's also hard is the ignorance. This anger is purely hormonal, but people still want to attach some fault or incident to it. NOTHING IS "WRONG" IT'S JUST HOW BIOLOGY WORKS.

Ya'll, this month I feel like I've been possessed and need an exorcism. Usually, my PMS is very mild. I get very intense cramps due to my IUD, but I've learned how to manage pain. Any mood issues I have is really due to being in so much pain. For some reason, this month I don't have the awful cramps but I do have **hot flashes** and THE SHORTEST TEMPER IN THE WORLD. Like for the last 3 days I've been stewing in sweat and ready to break something. I almost cussed out my manager for being a slow fucking talking, rambling, fill the air with your nasty hot ass breath old man. I especially get so fucking angry by people who can just keep talking and talking but saying nothing of substance, *SHUT. UP.* It's like I'm kinda wired up, and then I sweat, and that just makes me ANGRY. And then I get chills and get even more uncomfortable and annoyed smh. I'm so over it y'all. I'm sick of being angry. (now I'm tearing up smdh). So annoying how anger is only acceptable to be released if you have a "good reason". What about because this is how my body is wired? There's always someone around, wish they would go away and leave me alone, I just wanna yell and be belligerent in peace (heh). Actually, what is the best way to communicate something like this? I've tried to just ask for space but then people wanna know what's wrong, and you say PMS, but then they don't really take it seriously. Like, **LEAVE ME ALONE** this shit is REAL and I WILL hurt your feelings!! NOBODY WANTS THAT SO *GO AWAY*. What's also hard is the ignorance. This anger is purely hormonal, but people still want to attach some fault or incident to it. NOTHING IS "WRONG" IT'S JUST HOW BIOLOGY WORKS.

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I feel you.

I'm on my second IUD, and even though it's the same kind, this experience has been so different. My first IUD mellowed out my mood swings. My periods stopped completely.

With this second one it's been a few years and I'm still having periods. My irritability before my period is absolutely insane. I'm a teacher, so I keep my shit together at work because you just can't go off on kids or your colleagues, but sometimes I just have to sit in my car before heading home for a minute because I am boiling inside and I don't want to get into a road rage incident. My poor husband suffers the brunt of my short temper, but he knows me well and he follows my period tracker too, so explain to me why he presses the damn buttons that he knows is going to set me off that time of the month?

I just want to be left alone during those times, but even when I try to shine it on it's like people can tell and they get in your space even more. Ugh! Go away!

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, but you're in good company!

Omg what's with people who can't leave you alone, especially when you ask them to!!

I don't want to be the person who points out obvious things that you have probably already considered...however...this seems super fucked up! Are severe cramps normal with an IUD? I thought one of the benefits was lighter/easier periods? And it's a little concerning that this month you don't have cramps but your mood swings have been more extreme. Like the sudden change seems odd. Is it possible you are reaching peri menopause territory? Or possible your IUD came out? I think you should try to see your doctor!

I also knew a woman who had some super bad version of PMS (it had a scary sounding name) and when she told me I was like damn, I am going to make a mental note to be real understanding of this chick if she ever snaps at me. So maybe tell people that you have a psychotic version of PMS that makes you feel quasi homicidal but you are successfully managing it...for now...

I am sorry 😞 Sounds very exhausting and stressful!

I guess I should have specified I have the non-hormonal IUD lol. And I'm 27 so idk if this is perimenopause, but I really don't think so.

You mean premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD)? I've thought about that before, but I only have these super intense mood swings a few times a year. I think you need more consistent symptoms for that.

Yes, PMDD! Apparently one of the biggest indicators though is severe pain, even more so than the mood effects. It's like something with your hormones disrupts your body's natural pain relief system. I would see if you can get tested for it! You've probably already considered the hormonal vs non-hormone IUD, but if not, I wonder if a hormonal one would help with cramps? I have a Mirena and have had no negative effects. Before this, I was on hormonal BC pills for many years and feel like that was a disaster for me in terms of emotions and mood swings, but the levels in the Mirena are low enough that I don't notice any impact on my mood. I know plenty of women have had bad experiences with Mirena, so not suggesting it is a miracle solution for everyone.

I think my first thing will be to get the IUD removed. I never had such horrible cramps before it. I know period symptoms can change with age so I wanna make sure it's my body and not the IUD.

I don't really have any advice, but I understand where you're coming from. About ten days before my cycle starts I wake up in a simmering rage that lasts a few days. I'm not on any sort of birth control because I am prone to migraines and that limited my options, then I learned more about the side effects of hormonal birth control and decided against it for myself.

I have sought out advice many many times on how to manage all the symptoms associated with my cycle and it all keeps coming back to eating well and exercising regularly. I still haven't managed to get that together consistently, so I can't personally vouch for that working.

I understand your feelings of wanting to be left alone and no one honoring it. I think I come across as a little unhinged sometimes and when I'm in pain or hormonal it's worse. Just get yourself a reputation as a crazy person and that may solve your problems with people bothering you! 😅

Y'know, it's funny. When I drink a lot and eat like shit I get horrible cramps and bloating, and this month when I'm 40 days sober and eat pretty clean it's no cramps or bloat but hot flash and hellfeels. It's wild how much lifestyle can change things.

I want to be healthy but why does it come with unrepentant Anger?

I want to be healthy but why does it come with unrepentant Anger?

To be really honest, I feel like unrepentant anger is a healthy reaction to the society we live in. I try not to be too dark on here, but I feel like for me personally the more I take care of myself the more emotionally raw I get. I'm hoping there's some sort of plateau coming.