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Ya'll, this month I feel like I've been possessed and need an exorcism.

Usually, my PMS is very mild. I get very intense cramps due to my IUD, but I've learned how to manage pain. Any mood issues I have is really due to being in so much pain.

For some reason, this month I don't have the awful cramps but I do have hot flashes and THE SHORTEST TEMPER IN THE WORLD. Like for the last 3 days I've been stewing in sweat and ready to break something. I almost cussed out my manager for being a slow fucking talking, rambling, fill the air with your nasty hot ass breath old man. I especially get so fucking angry by people who can just keep talking and talking but saying nothing of substance, SHUT. UP.

It's like I'm kinda wired up, and then I sweat, and that just makes me ANGRY. And then I get chills and get even more uncomfortable and annoyed smh.

I'm so over it y'all. I'm sick of being angry. (now I'm tearing up smdh). So annoying how anger is only acceptable to be released if you have a "good reason". What about because this is how my body is wired? There's always someone around, wish they would go away and leave me alone, I just wanna yell and be belligerent in peace (heh).

Actually, what is the best way to communicate something like this? I've tried to just ask for space but then people wanna know what's wrong, and you say PMS, but then they don't really take it seriously. Like, LEAVE ME ALONE this shit is REAL and I WILL hurt your feelings!! NOBODY WANTS THAT SO GO AWAY. What's also hard is the ignorance. This anger is purely hormonal, but people still want to attach some fault or incident to it. NOTHING IS "WRONG" IT'S JUST HOW BIOLOGY WORKS.

Ya'll, this month I feel like I've been possessed and need an exorcism. Usually, my PMS is very mild. I get very intense cramps due to my IUD, but I've learned how to manage pain. Any mood issues I have is really due to being in so much pain. For some reason, this month I don't have the awful cramps but I do have **hot flashes** and THE SHORTEST TEMPER IN THE WORLD. Like for the last 3 days I've been stewing in sweat and ready to break something. I almost cussed out my manager for being a slow fucking talking, rambling, fill the air with your nasty hot ass breath old man. I especially get so fucking angry by people who can just keep talking and talking but saying nothing of substance, *SHUT. UP.* It's like I'm kinda wired up, and then I sweat, and that just makes me ANGRY. And then I get chills and get even more uncomfortable and annoyed smh. I'm so over it y'all. I'm sick of being angry. (now I'm tearing up smdh). So annoying how anger is only acceptable to be released if you have a "good reason". What about because this is how my body is wired? There's always someone around, wish they would go away and leave me alone, I just wanna yell and be belligerent in peace (heh). Actually, what is the best way to communicate something like this? I've tried to just ask for space but then people wanna know what's wrong, and you say PMS, but then they don't really take it seriously. Like, **LEAVE ME ALONE** this shit is REAL and I WILL hurt your feelings!! NOBODY WANTS THAT SO *GO AWAY*. What's also hard is the ignorance. This anger is purely hormonal, but people still want to attach some fault or incident to it. NOTHING IS "WRONG" IT'S JUST HOW BIOLOGY WORKS.

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I don't want to be the person who points out obvious things that you have probably already considered...however...this seems super fucked up! Are severe cramps normal with an IUD? I thought one of the benefits was lighter/easier periods? And it's a little concerning that this month you don't have cramps but your mood swings have been more extreme. Like the sudden change seems odd. Is it possible you are reaching peri menopause territory? Or possible your IUD came out? I think you should try to see your doctor!

I also knew a woman who had some super bad version of PMS (it had a scary sounding name) and when she told me I was like damn, I am going to make a mental note to be real understanding of this chick if she ever snaps at me. So maybe tell people that you have a psychotic version of PMS that makes you feel quasi homicidal but you are successfully managing it...for now...

I am sorry 😞 Sounds very exhausting and stressful!

I guess I should have specified I have the non-hormonal IUD lol. And I'm 27 so idk if this is perimenopause, but I really don't think so.

You mean premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD)? I've thought about that before, but I only have these super intense mood swings a few times a year. I think you need more consistent symptoms for that.

Yes, PMDD! Apparently one of the biggest indicators though is severe pain, even more so than the mood effects. It's like something with your hormones disrupts your body's natural pain relief system. I would see if you can get tested for it! You've probably already considered the hormonal vs non-hormone IUD, but if not, I wonder if a hormonal one would help with cramps? I have a Mirena and have had no negative effects. Before this, I was on hormonal BC pills for many years and feel like that was a disaster for me in terms of emotions and mood swings, but the levels in the Mirena are low enough that I don't notice any impact on my mood. I know plenty of women have had bad experiences with Mirena, so not suggesting it is a miracle solution for everyone.

I think my first thing will be to get the IUD removed. I never had such horrible cramps before it. I know period symptoms can change with age so I wanna make sure it's my body and not the IUD.