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I finally was able to go through with this. I am still a young woman, but I have adenomyosis and endometriosis. I am infertile. I have had two chemical pregnancy miscarriages that I don’t even bother mentioning anymore. I have lived in high levels of pain every day since my mid twenties, had 3 major surgeries to try and clean up the endometriosis, the last of which was pretty darn successful. But my uterus is diseased. It’s big and “boggy” instead of small, firm, and smooth. It had a large blood blister on the surface of it during my last big surgery that the surgeons said they had never seen before.

I’m exhausted. I’ve had to beg, fight, and scream to get the care I’ve had so far, no one took me seriously for years. Now without hormonal suppression I am getting my periods every 15-20 days for 6-7 days at a time, they are unbelievably heavy, clotted, and painful beyond belief. Luckily I am on progesterone to suppress them because I literally couldn’t live like that anymore, I was anemic and had low iron stores in my bones to make more blood cells, never mind the social/physical difficulty of heavily bleeding 50% of the time.

Today I went to the appointment I have waited since January for. The doctor spent an hour and 15 minutes with me, more time than probably all my other appointments combined through my life about Endo. I cried about my pain, I cried about how tired I am, I cried about giving up the miracle organ that is a uterus. But I’m going to do it. I can’t live in pain anymore. The surgeon told me when she saw my uterus last time she immediately wanted to remove it. That was 4 years ago and I’m done.

Goodbye uterus, thanks for not a goddamned thing.

I finally was able to go through with this. I am still a young woman, but I have adenomyosis and endometriosis. I am infertile. I have had two chemical pregnancy miscarriages that I don’t even bother mentioning anymore. I have lived in high levels of pain every day since my mid twenties, had 3 major surgeries to try and clean up the endometriosis, the last of which was pretty darn successful. But my uterus is diseased. It’s big and “boggy” instead of small, firm, and smooth. It had a large blood blister on the surface of it during my last big surgery that the surgeons said they had never seen before. I’m exhausted. I’ve had to beg, fight, and scream to get the care I’ve had so far, no one took me seriously for years. Now without hormonal suppression I am getting my periods every 15-20 days for 6-7 days at a time, they are unbelievably heavy, clotted, and painful beyond belief. Luckily I am on progesterone to suppress them because I literally couldn’t live like that anymore, I was anemic and had low iron stores in my bones to make more blood cells, never mind the social/physical difficulty of heavily bleeding 50% of the time. Today I went to the appointment I have waited since January for. The doctor spent an hour and 15 minutes with me, more time than probably all my other appointments combined through my life about Endo. I cried about my pain, I cried about how tired I am, I cried about giving up the miracle organ that is a uterus. But I’m going to do it. I can’t live in pain anymore. The surgeon told me when she saw my uterus last time she immediately wanted to remove it. That was 4 years ago and I’m done. Goodbye uterus, thanks for not a goddamned thing.

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Did you see the youtube of the woman with the same issue who told them she was trans just to get the surgery?

yeah, such privilege. I'm glad you finally got their attention.

No I haven’t! Trans men have many more treatment options available to them that are very successful, lots of drugs that are fantastic for suppressing endo pain also cause masculinization so they aren’t used. I was on one called Danazol for several years and had to stop for that reason. Many of them don’t want their uterus’. They claim they have it worse than woman in a lot of ways (so surprising, everything is worse for trans people all the time) but really they benefit in a lot of ways women don’t. Even presenting looking like a man probably helps them, men’s pain is taken more seriously.

I resent trans men for destroying the sisterhood that existed before they came along with their “inclusive language” demands. I have been removed by countless groups for refusing to not say “ladies” in my posts or call it a woman’s disease. They can’t help but tear everything around them apart because they can’t stand themselves. It’s been devastating for me to lose my sisterhood and the language that binds us together while on such painful journeys. I don’t give a shit what they identify as, they’re women, with a women’s disease,l. A whooping 12 men have been diagnosed with endometriosis while 10% of the female population has it. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🖕🏻