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This is not the worst thing ever, but smth really irritating just happened. My job involves lifting stuff. I'm fit, and I got no problem keeping up. Today was slow, so I was not in a hurry. So then, this guy came to my work station and started picking up my packages, and just said that "they're heavy" and that it needs to be done quickly (literally no reason, and lifting these "heavy" packages is literally part of my job). It was super disrespectful like, I do this all the time and there was no other reason for him to intrude except that I'm a woman. Also he didn't apologize or seem to realize that he did anything wrong, when I told him to not do that anymore.

This is not the worst thing ever, but smth really irritating just happened. My job involves lifting stuff. I'm fit, and I got no problem keeping up. Today was slow, so I was not in a hurry. So then, this guy came to my work station and started picking up my packages, and just said that "they're heavy" and that it needs to be done quickly (literally no reason, and lifting these "heavy" packages is literally part of my job). It was super disrespectful like, I do this all the time and there was no other reason for him to intrude except that I'm a woman. Also he didn't apologize or seem to realize that he did anything wrong, when I told him to not do that anymore.

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[–] otterstrom 9 points Edited

Seems like a great opportunity to insert yourself into his job and start doing it for him because it “looks hard and needs to be done” and see how he feels

Men seem to have a huge problem with women carrying 'heavy' things - it's like they believe we could only carry something the weight of a feather, regardless of whether we are currently already successfully carrying something heavier or not. I've had men practically yank things away from me to carry them 'for me' even though I said thanks I'm fine actually.

I think some of them feel like assholes if they aren't helping the lady.

maybe, but it shouldnt override a 'no thanks'

A line I have found effective sometimes: "Do you always ignore it when a woman tells you 'no'?"

I am generally grateful for the help, but when I really don't need it it is pretty annoying when they keep after you about it.