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[–] DebraKadabra 16 points (+16|-0)

For that being the headline, there sure isn't much elaboration on that point - but shocking and apaling accounts nonetheless.

I know a lot of ordinary men. I am going to share with them this article and ask them the same question in the headline. Is it you? You must know someone who does. Do you know who. Men talk to each other. Tell me who. Blink once if you know someone who has bought a child for sex. Don't blink if you're sure no one you know has bought a child for sex. Blink twice if it was you and watch out for your balls.

I remember watching "To Catch a Predator" with my father when I was a kid. I was so shocked that so many men were so blasé about it. My father was never shocked, just angry. I would talk about it with my father and we noticed a pattern - you could start to tell the pedophiles from the opportunists. The only reason it mattered is because we let our guard down around normal men.

I should ask my father who he knows.

[–] HighQueenofFemmes 16 points (+16|-0)

The only time I see men get upset about this is when it happens to a young boy. When it happens to a young girl, their first response is usually, "Well, maybe he thought she was 18."

[–] DebraKadabra 2 points (+2|-0)

I hear that so much from dudes, it's appalling. You hang around them enough and they'll tell you what they really think about that as well - him thinking she was 18 never happened. He wasn't fooled or not fooled for a second. He didn't care. The age doesn't even cross their mind, and that's how little they think of a sexual opportunity. This is supposed to be the intellectually complex sex? The smart ones? They detect an opportunity to have sex and suddenly can't think?

As for my father it's the case of not giving a shit unless there's women you care about in your life. He has his little sisters and me who he's over the top protective of and he tells me it's because he knows other men.

I just wish men would clean their own house though. I really do.

[–] Freyja 14 points (+14|-0)

I thank TCAP as one of the primary influences for young me recognizing that it can be any man, that not all creeps necessarily look like a creep.

[–] DebraKadabra 1 points (+1|-0)

Me too!

The premise of the show became quite a meme eventually, and many called it out as stupid reality TV, but I'm a TCAP stan just for the awareness it brought to something incredibly important.

[–] zuubat 15 points (+15|-0) Edited

In the past 16 months, I’ve witnessed the worst of human male behavior

Some could be upstanding people men in the community. It was mostly people men in their 40s

I see this sort of thing over and over and over. When speaking and/or writing of the harms that men do, we are like a person with a severe stutter: we cannot get the right word/s out.

Whether it's sex trafficking, rape in general, domestic violence, or sexual harassment the MSM in particular relies on an alternative style guide: nothing but passive voice, euphemisms, and abstractions, the vaguer the better. Words like "women," "girls," and "family members" are rampant; words like "husband," "boyfriend," and "father" are rare; and certain words must NEVER, EVER appear.

Those words are "man" and "men."

[–] Choccolat 9 points (+9|-0)

That's because they are usually the ones writing these articles and they Al have a subconscious need to protect their kind

[–] bornwithovaries 14 points (+14|-0)

A common accusation against radical feminists is that they apparently (not really) believe all sex is rape.

But we can see clearly from how they use language that all major media outlets believe rape is sex.

If you're "buying" someone "for" sex, you're raping them. If you're "buying" a CHILD "for sex" you are DEFINITELY raping them.

We'd have half a chance of stopping all this if the media would just change their language on this issue.

[–] nemesis 13 points (+13|-0)

It’s tempting to put buyers who exploit children in a box — to say that all of them are pedophiles, a small percentage of the population driven by a deep sickness. But researchers and survivors say that’s not the case.

ECPAT International researchers found that the great majority of men who pay to exploit children are opportunists. They don’t set out specifically to buy sex with a child, but neither do they walk away when faced with the temptation.

That's still pedophilia, Mr. Swarens. Those who handled call centers where prostitution is decriminalized or legal have said time and time again that they always ask for the youngest girls.

[–] Amareldys 1 points (+1|-0)

Aren't they pedophiles by definition?

[–] nemesis 0 points (+0|-0)

Actually, according to the journalist they're opportunists. Don't put them in a box!

[–] HelgeNacht 2 points (+2|-0) Edited

One thing that disturbs me is how many of the articles that confront this topic are over 2 years old. It's as if there is a current media blackout of any discussion regarding sex trafficking, domestic violence, etc..

I was watching a documentary called "Rewind" last night, and it made me lose sleep. Was about a boy and his sister who were sexually assaulted by THREE of their male relatives. All of these men presented as "normal straight men". I recommend anyone with children watch it, as they show videotape of these kids and their behavior while the abuse was (unknown by parents) going on. The worst of the abusers was a well-paid musician, and he got off with only 12 years probation.