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The pediatrician we use has lots of art on the walls. One piece, above the scale for kids who can stand, says this:

"You are worthy of everything you desire."

Now, I am well aware that this is hardly Rape culture with a capital R, but I think this commonplace attitude that's being spread contributes to a lot of bad things. It creates an unrestrained entitlement.

I am worthy of...

  • watching porn.
  • not having to do chores / more down time.

And also spreads to things that aren't directly related to the oppression of women, but still isn't good, like "I am worthy of..."

  • getting all As
  • that shirt in the store

Anyway, just wanted to share. I think it's a really low key, but very socially acceptable thought that is likely contributing to rape culture.

The pediatrician we use has lots of art on the walls. One piece, above the scale for kids who can stand, says this: "You are worthy of everything you desire." Now, I am well aware that this is hardly Rape culture with a capital R, but I think this commonplace attitude that's being spread contributes to a lot of bad things. It creates an unrestrained entitlement. I am worthy of... - watching porn. - not having to do chores / more down time. And also spreads to things that aren't directly related to the oppression of women, but still isn't good, like "I am worthy of..." - getting all As - that shirt in the store Anyway, just wanted to share. I think it's a really low key, but very socially acceptable thought that is likely contributing to rape culture.

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Sounds like the kind of good intentions that lead to a lot of toxic positivity. Believing "I'm worthy of everything I desire." means being less able to cope with failure, or as you observe, rejection.

Since watching an excellent YouTuber share their defense of JK Rowling against the constant complaints about, not just transphobia but everything she's said and picking apart her work for signs of wrongthink, I have been thinking about this trend of entitlement that's so deeply entrenched in social justice. I watched it play out in fandoms before giving up on fandoms. If its not written the way the audience wants it written, they for sure think that's a failure on your part and not just a natural consequence of authors having their own unique voices and experiences. They don't seem to understand that its very literally impossible to please everyone.

I desire a couple millions in my bank account, is it fair to steal those? These feel-good-buzzwords and -sentences are so stupid.

What about just a statement of “you have value” without tying it to wants?

Way to promote endlessly chasing ~desires~ to achieve perceived happiness.

[–] furyosa no, thank you 10 points

I dislike blanket statements that comes without any qualifiers, such as the one you gave an example of. It then becomes dependent on the individual's value system to interpret the blanket statement and they can take it as validation of their value system. There are some kids that desire truly heinous things, even at a very young age. Then you have contributed to strengthening the beginnings of a corrupt value system even if you didn't intend to.