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[–] Apricot_Ibex 5 points Edited

Even the women on r/sexworkers ripped some creepy scrote a new one for promoting sex work to random women on Reddit.

They told him that the industry is now flooded with providers, so competition is driving prices to rock bottom, most women aren’t making very much money, and they risk ruining their chance at professional advancement in a real career if their identity is linked with this stuff.

They also acknowledged the trauma that can be caused by engaging in prostitution, porn, OnlyFans, or stripping.

Of course, men love the idea of a market flooded with women who have nowhere else to turn and will offer desperately low prices because they have no choice. Literally every other post on sex worker forums is about men who try to get sex or OF content for free!

I did online sex work for a little bit - all the of above is literally why I say “sex work is work but not the way you think”. 90% of my time was spent in chat rooms filed with fellas, all of them just wanting to chitchat and none of them wanting to pay - sex workers tell you not to allow them to do that but then it runs down your engagement and pushes you further down the search results. Most of your inbox is flooded with men who want a freebie or to just waste your time. I worked on one site that had a chat feature for the boys, they’d message you negging you into dirty texting with them. You’d tell them they need to pay and they’d refuse. The girls on the help page all complained about this, some of the girls even engaged and tried to get them to pay after and the men would just dissapear. Also all those sites take a MASSIVE cut of your money, the only call I had that made money totalled around $350 and I got about $80. It was still the most money I made on a single call.

Most girls go into it thinking they can fling out a few nudes and have piles of cash. Your told repeatedly by site owners that more money is in porn, so you do more graphic nudes, you make porn videos by yourself, with a boyfriend or with another girl. Then your told the real money is in proper porn production so you go there. Then your told the real money is at shows where guys can meet you and book personal sessions. Then your told the real money is in working for yourself and having your own site and booking your own in house jobs.

Also with online work, these guys message you ALL THE TIME. All the fucking time. About nothing. They don’t pay up and leave, they hang around and are a total pain in the ass. But you can’t block and delete them because like I said, they push your engagement up.

The truth is there is no money. You might get one or two that pay but for the most part all the excessive access to porn and the high number of women available for paid sex work just makes men more entitled to womens bodies. Your content gets stolen and reproduced without your permission, most of the time you don’t even know it’s happened. There are people online who dedicate their lives to ruining the lives of sex workers

I used to be friends with a different girl who has over 30,000 Instagram followers, super high engagement on her soft porn Instagram photos and an only fans that she sells subscriptions to for cheep. She has always needed a full time job. She can’t work as an influencer because brands won’t sponser people who make porn. She’s forever reducing the price of her only fans yet only the handful of her few hardest followers pay for it, the rest of it gets ripped off and re uploaded elsewhere. Every few months she has a new job - she’s recently got a pretty decent one. But I imagine it won’t be long before she’s suddenly doing something else

I literally could write several posts about this subject

I literally could write several posts about this subject

I hope you do. You have a valuable perspective

Sorry to hear you had to deal with those useless scrotes. That is all infuriating. Men are leeches and basically want everything for free, always! And only getting $80 out of $350 earned is robbery! These provider sites (which I’m sure are mostly male owned and operated) are as exploitative as all the other middle-men who steal sex workers’ money.

The guys constantly showing up to chat would drive me batshit. It’s emotional labor just having to deal with them politely, for hours, when they’re clearly showing NO respect in return.

Men are always whining that they “can’t live without” endless hours of porn and erotic content….if it’s so crucial to their ability to function daily, why won’t they pay for it? They think because of PornHub and other sites that everything should be free. They think women should drive to their door and have intercourse for free too.

At the same time, as you said, they’re stalking, doxxing, and trying to destroy the lives of the same women they’re demanding free labor from.

There really seems to be NO upside to dealing with these bottom feeders and a lot of hidden costs and risks. Your testimony as someone who had to put up with them is very valuable. I agree with pennygadget that I would love to read your posts on this, if you have a chance!

I’ll think about writing a post. My only issue is that even in radfem spaces some women get ultra upset about sex work and can be super rude - I’ve even had it happen here where women have got super shamey when I’ve talked about it.