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It must surely not have been too long ago right? Does anyone have any data on this?

The grandmother of one of my friends was 14 when she married my friend's grandfather... My friend's grandfather was 32 when he got married to a 14 year old teenager girl that would become my friend's grandmother...

This was around 53 years ago since my friend's grandma is 67 years old now...

By most people's standards today my friend's grandpa would be considered a pedophile ( or hebephile for those who prefer more technical terms but either way it would be considered HIGHTLY inappropriate in most of society's eyes today! ) but my friend told me that it was " normal " back when this marriage happened...

So when did it became taboo when this was so common not too long ago apparently?

Do you think the Second Wave of Feminism may have helped turn this into the taboo it is today?

I think an advancement of neurological studies may have helped too as it became more and more clear to science that teenagers have different brains from adults when many cultures did not recognize that adolescence was even a thing until very recently apparently I heard...

Do you know any similar cases to my friend's grandma in your families or friends's families by the way?

I'm just astonished by how recent this all was... Not even 60 years ago...

It must surely not have been too long ago right? Does anyone have any data on this? The grandmother of one of my friends was 14 when she married my friend's grandfather... My friend's grandfather was 32 when he got married to a 14 year old teenager girl that would become my friend's grandmother... This was around 53 years ago since my friend's grandma is 67 years old now... By most people's standards today my friend's grandpa would be considered a pedophile ( or hebephile for those who prefer more technical terms but either way it would be considered HIGHTLY inappropriate in most of society's eyes today! ) but my friend told me that it was " normal " back when this marriage happened... So when did it became taboo when this was so common not too long ago apparently? Do you think the Second Wave of Feminism may have helped turn this into the taboo it is today? I think an advancement of neurological studies may have helped too as it became more and more clear to science that teenagers have different brains from adults when many cultures did not recognize that adolescence was even a thing until very recently apparently I heard... Do you know any similar cases to my friend's grandma in your families or friends's families by the way? I'm just astonished by how recent this all was... Not even 60 years ago...

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[–] Amareldys 14 points Edited

I think this must be a regional/cultural/social circles thing because I certainly don’t know any people who got married in the 60s who were in their early teens. Early twenties, sure. I don’t even know people who got married in the 1940s that young.

My guess it correlates with education. If a woman is expected to finish high school, and some sort of uni or vocational school, then it is cruel to marry her before she can do that.

In “Little Women” written about the 1860s, the girls are not allowed to marry until they are 20. They are well educated pastor’s daughters.

Even in agricultural societies, girls were rarely married off that young

When Henry the 8th married Katherine Howard, her youth caused a scandal. People have been skeeved out a long time

My aunt got married at 15 in the 1960s because she was already pregnant by a 25 year old man.

Yikes. That sucks.

Yes. And I am the only one in the family that thinks this was terrible. But I will say one thing to my uncle's credit and that is he married her and stayed married to her for over 65 years until his death, never cheating on her and being the sole provider for that whole time. She could have had that experience at the hands of a much worse man.

Which country was she from?

Will not answer this because: see username. But a country that is not associated with very young marriages, nor from a religion known for very young marriages, but a culture that considered "honor" paramount (past tense deliberate as you would not likely see same treatment today).