There's a reason I believe this is tied to women's liberation, and I'll get to that in a second. First:
"There are a lot of people questioning why Khloe Kardashian is laying in a hospital bed holding her son. And let me just repeat that, her son," emphasized TikTok user Colt Paulsen (@gaymanwithaspraytan) in a new video.
So, this dude is going to explain it to us, first emphasizing that the baby is the property of the buyer. I know the baby is genetically Khloe's. However there's a huge problem with the way we make DNA the be-all-and-end-all. (Unless adoption, in which case the one with the money wins again). And we put ZERO importance on the process it takes for a human baby to grow and be delivered. It's why we treat fatherhood parentage as equal before a baby is born, and even take babies away from mothers when tantrumings fathers want custody with their new wives. (They rarely bother if they don't have a new woman to do all the caretaking, btw).
Let's listen to "Colt's" nonsense explanation about Khloe's photos in the hospital bed. She seems to have quickly pulled the photos where I think she was in a delivery gown. I'm pretty sure that's what she was wearing. However, she's definitely kept up the ones of herself in the hospital bed.
"When it comes to giving birth via surrogate, most people do skin-to-skin contact." He motions to a picture of Khloe holding her son close to her chest. "I think that's what Khloe is doing right here," he adds.
She's fully clothed. Furthermore, parents usually do skin-to-skin contact, regardless of surrogate mothers being exploited. Furthermore furthermore, there is no need to use a hospital bed for this.
Medical resources are scarce. When Khloe is sitting her ass down on a hospital bed, that's a resource being used up. That's a room the nurses and staff need to clean from top-to-bottom, especially with COVID regulations. It makes you wonder where the surrogate mother is recovering. Was this a spare, unused room? Or was the surrogate mother sent home ASAP, as for-profit medicine usually requires? This means women who have just delivered have to wait if that room MUST be sorted for the next patient. It just clutters things up.
He continues to note that this is very routine. "As soon as the baby is born, it is not handed to the woman who gave birth to it.
A cruel and shitty thing to do to the baby and the "woman who gave birth to it." Who the baby recognizes as its mother. But of course it's handed to the purchasers, so they will hopefully leave the agency a five star review on Yelp.
It is handed to the mother or father for skin-to-skin contact to bond with their parent," he says, explaining that, as a gay man, he hopes to one day go through this process himself.
No mention of the surrogate mother at all, let alone reference to her as the surrogate mother.
No other article that I can see reports on the welfare of the surrogate. Any complications? What quality after-care was she given once they got the baby out of her? Who the fuck knows. She's deliberately invisible. She's likely had to sign an NDA to not speak about her experience, no matter how it turned out for her. Future complications from IVF implantation, carrying a foreign egg, pregnancy, and delivery will not be the problem of Khloe Kardashian, Tristan Thomas, or the agency. The costs of such problems could easily amount to more than what she was paid. The psychological impact of pushing a baby out, having your brain celebrate and immediately fall in love with the baby, only to have it be snatched by the customers? Also not their problem.
Khloe Kardashian is not the only one to present a surrogate's delivery in a staged way. Naomi Campbell gave a weird monologue that made it sound like she was delivering. Pete Buttigieg and his husband also sat in a hospital bed. Some well-known gay couple sat in the kiddie pool where the mother had just delivered, right in the swill.
The purchasers are insecure, knowing they didn't actually deliver the baby, so they set up these photoshoots to blur and fuzz out reality. Kinda the way a TIM tucks his dick and stuffs his bra, then photo-shops the hell out of the resulting picture. It's to make the surrogate mother even more invisible. We have to admit that she sort of existed, but only just. There's no hiding that two gay men can't have a baby, and Khloe Kardashian was never pregnant. But if we can make her a ghost, we don't have to think about her.
If we see pictures of Khloe sitting in a hospital bed, we think less about the surrogate mother. In fact, don't use the term surrogate mother. Use surrogate. Wherever possible, say "delivered via surrogacy" so the idea of a human is even MORE distant to the reader. Emphasize the glory of the buyers. Write about how long they waited. Hope much research they paid a lawyer to do. How they stayed up all night writing down names. THEIR journey.
Then write about how this baby is SOOOOOOO lucky, so they know later they have to be grateful and they owe their "parents."
Meanwhile, women all over the world are exploited to keep this industry afloat. And it MUST be an industry. It can't be a here-and-there thing if you're going to make it an investable, sustainable business. It can't be a cottage industry. You need surrogates available, and for competitive prices.
Women in bad economic situations are not told the full scope of physical risks. They're not fully informed of their rights, and they sure as shit are not told of the psychological ramifications. The buyers usually hold all the cards, and any laws not in their favor are presented in the press as cruel.
Most laws favor the rich. They favor the privileged. We shouldn't whine about ANY LAW that protects the poor or women.
So when "parents" pose for these creepy photos, it is an insult to women. It erases the seriousness of pregnancy and birth. It makes it a commodity, whose value goes up and down in a free market.
Anonymous is always a woman.