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[–] hmimperialtortie cats plz 4 points

Not to mention it automatically excludes the majority of women in the world.

hard agree. i low key hate men. truly and deeply. they have hurt me and my female peers in unimaginable ways. but i’m hetro, i desire sex and companionship. i have a intense desire to have children.

on top of that i feel like there is some level of elitism to the ideal of “female separatism”

i live in a patriarchal, poor, rural community. i have a low level education. i have minimal work experience. i escaped poverty and prostitution by attaching to the “best man” i could find.

it’s an absurd 1st world, urban dwelling, collage educated perspective that women can just choose not to live alongside men.

i’m sorry but the majority of women in this world are living a reality where a life without male partners is a fast track to be ostracized by the wider community.

[–] hmimperialtortie cats plz 4 points

Also hard agree! I have not much more than secondary education, never had anything resembling a career, and was never able to live alone - my mother and I always had to live together to afford any rent. We’re now in a retirement village and I have no desire to be in an all-female community. I’m heterosexual. Never had a man, because I never set eyes on one I fancied, much less any who fancied me. Talking about sex as feminist or not is pointless, not least because one’s orientation isn’t something one can choose.

While the merits and practicalities of female separatism can no doubt be debated, it's not true that this is an elitist ideal. Women in Kenya as well as in late 19th- and early 20th-century Canton, China, among other places, have built separatist communities for themselves.