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Straight-up rant right here.

I was trying to figure out why oral was so one-sided in our relationship, wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt. Lo and behold: "Well, would you wax for me? That's what I like."

Does he wax? Of course not. He keeps it trimmed like I do.

Am I generous in bed? Of course! I cared about him.

Have I ever made any comments about how he maintains his body? No. I'm attracted to him, and not just for aesthetics.

Also slipped out that he snorts coke every single day. I've been dating a drug addict.

Jesus Christ. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Straight-up rant right here. I was trying to figure out why oral was so one-sided in our relationship, wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt. Lo and behold: "Well, would you wax for me? That's what I like." Does he wax? Of course not. He keeps it trimmed like I do. Am I generous in bed? Of course! I cared about him. Have I ever made any comments about how he maintains his body? No. I'm attracted to him, and not just for aesthetics. Also slipped out that he snorts coke every single day. I've been dating a drug addict. Jesus Christ. ๐Ÿ˜‚

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I think preferring a bald pussy is disgusting. That's what pre-pubescent girls have. Why do you want me to look like a ten-year-old down there? So gross.

Yep! As a lesbian I have NEVER understood the waxing obsession. But then I understand how that would require a ton of discomfort as well as time and money and maintenance and potentially even health issues! Plus the aesthetics are just - blech. To me this really demonstrates a lack of empathy, since he doesnโ€™t wax himself and the thought to do so likely never even occurred to him.

Iโ€™m extremely impressed that you held your ground and knew your worth. Unfortunately I think a lot of women in your case would rationalize his desires and internalize his bullshit as their own thanks to cultural gaslighting.

Yes on the lack of empathy. Hearing him say it was an instant, permanent turn off. I would never be able to be around him again without thinking about it. "Don't get hung up on that!" Sorry bro, but I am.

I think a lot of women would indeed stick around and consider it a point of compromise. I'm not about to put myself in the headspace of feeling like something is wrong with my body.

Waxing is so painful that I will never ever consider having my privates done. If I want to tidy I'll trim or even shave.

I think these men have absolutely no idea how painful, messy and unpleasant waxing is, nor the issues with ingrowns and suchlike. They just see it and think it must be standard lady grooming. I long for the Brazilian to become a quaint and shocking part of history.

Yeah, I like to trim anyway but waxing is a whole different ballgame, especially when he's not into getting it done on himself.

If I went through with his little request, seeing HIS pubes would make me increasingly resentful over time. Total hypocrite who wants me to spend money/time and feel uncomfortable for the chance that he MIGHT eat me out. No.

The other demographic that has hairless pubes are very old women. The pubic hair is a visual sign of female adulthood and reproductive potential. Next time ask if he is attracted to 90 year olds as well as 9 year olds.

You know, I used to think that too, till a man told me I would never look like a child because of my developed labia. However. Not a fan.

I am so glad I came of sexual age before everyone was supposed to remove all their body hair. I find it unattractive on men, too - pubes are sexy.

I find it unattractive on men, too - pubes are sexy.

Truly. A man without pubic hair looks defective. Almost laughably so. It's bonkers to me how porn managed to get people to almost universally decry pubic hair on women.

There was that UK dating show where contestants showed body parts. Many of the men were hairless and it just looked so unattractive. Sorry sir your penis is not large and looks weird and I can't stop thinking of a baby elephant. Not in a good way. God or genetics gave you a welcome mat for many reasons please grow it back.

Yeah, the only reasons for that preference are pedophilia and porn addiction, both red flags. That said, as someone who enjoys going down on women, bathing and trimming are necessities.

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Dick is abundant and of low value. Glad you aren't wasting anymore of your time with him

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Lol. Ouch. I just dumped mine because he told me that the women in jail getting raped by TIMs are into it because they're sex starved.

I think women into men should stop being so generous. Give oral if he first gives you good oral FFS. Also, I hate these double standards. Trimming is the best practice

What sucks is that there are women like me that enjoy giving... We have to actively stop ourselves from giving too much. Selfish men are the worst

I do enjoy giving, to both men and women. But yup, gotta hold back. People take it for granted.

Also sorry but we are not the same. Giving oral to a man is way worse than giving it to a woman. You are never obligated to reciprocate but I donโ€™t think you should even consider giving if he doesnโ€™t.

Yes. Men can get off from piv, most women don't. I feel like that and taking on all of the other risks is already more than enough. Women don't owe men oral..sex already weighs heavily in their favor.

Exactly! I'm not straight, but my straight friends who are with decent men seem to have the philosophy that oral is "her turn" and intercourse is "his turn". Oral for him is just an extra bonus, letting him put it in is already the reciprocation.

Yeah I would refuse to give a blowjob and would only do it for a loving boyfriend or husband if that's something they really wanted. Men view sucking dick as degrading as well. I'm not going to be part of their sick fantasy of domination and degradation.

The degradation aspect is why I canโ€™t get into it. My husband is super kind and doesnโ€™t SEEM like heโ€™d get off on degrading me, but at the end of the day heโ€™s a man and it is associated with that soooooooo donโ€™t wanna risk it

This. If he wants head then he should give you head first. It's literally only fair? And if he won't then don't give him any. His true colors will show after that

The look of naked genitalia grosses me out. It reminds me of children. Adults are supposed to have pubic hair. It's sexy. Obviously it needs to be clean and (in my preference) trimmed but hair in itself is just that, hair. People who find it gross have been so thoroughly brainwashed by porn that they're past saving tbh. I used to conform to whatever preference my partner had so sometimes I would shave just to make them happy but fuck that noise honestly. I trim and if someone has a problem with it they can fuck off. I don't want to have sex with people who put unrealistic expectations on my body. If having pubic hair is a dealbreaker to them, it's a dealbreaker to me that they think like that. Plain and simple.

Excellent move, sister, never look back.

Thank you! This is the support I need and I'm grateful for it.

I love posts when sisters get rid of their terrible men.

I grew up watching my mom suffer endlessly to bend over backwards for my alcoholic ragey dad. Noooooo way. Won't be me. Never.

Me too. It's especially great when their first post is "I'm done with his shit. I'm out."

[โ€“] BlackCirce ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ–๐Ÿ–๐Ÿ– 37 points

Seriously stop having sex with men who have sexual hangups and impotence. Itโ€™s not normal.

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