You know, comparing surrogacy that exploits women in poverty to mail-order brides is apt. I never thought of it that way. Women are being exploited by men — and more depressingly, other, wealthier women — and most women have no provoke grasping why that’s wrong. How can you reconcile being against mail-order brides with being so gung-ho for surrogacy?!
How can you reconcile being against mail-order brides with being so gung-ho for surrogacy?!
As an adoptee who has several other adopted family members, I’ve noticed throughout my life that so many people feel entitled to have a child that is biologically or somewhat biologically their own.
I understand that part of that urge is simply nature, but growing up in a family who values family regardless of blood relation, the extent that people will go to have blood related children when they’re unable to naturally seems very grotesque and selfish.
Just like marriage, having a child is not a right, it’s a privilege, and no one should have the right to pay to use the body of another.
Yes, extremely grotesque and selfish. A prime example right in this article is the nightmarish experience of the woman who carried twins for the couple in the US who ended up abandoning the babies in Mexico because they were born prematurely and had physical/cognitive issues!
So not only are they obsessed with making genetic copies of themselves, they will happily abandon those copies to foster care in a foreign country if they aren’t “perfect”! So much for having a “deep connection” with their bio children! Wtf!
And no thought was given to their surrogate who risked her life and was left riding a public bus while trying to recover from a c-section to fulfill her legal obligation to check on those babies every day in the hospital. All three of these human beings were expendable commodities for these “paying customers.”
I can only imagine the trauma of that experience— poor woman and poor babies. Unbelievable! It’s unclear if she was ever even paid either.
My family has a lot of adoption, including my mother, so maybe it’s more normalized for me, but I cannot imagine seeing a biological child as “better” or more preferred than an adopted one. Hell, I raised my stepson from infancy and he is 100% my child (and he has the mouth to prove it 🤪).
I hear a lot of women defend their position with “well adoption is expensive and difficult.” Surrogacy is way more expensive, but you get to pass the difficultly off onto the woman rented uterus, so I guess that’s not a factor for them.
I have zero understanding of this. It makes no logical sense. I get that we’re technically animals but we’re supposed to rise above that and try to use our advanced brains.
This is Handmaid’s Tale stuff, women making a “choice” that isn’t really a choice when the only other option is to watch their children suffer in poverty.
They are getting ripped off, lied to by these “clients” and agencies, and their health is being severely jeopardized.
Would “choice feminism” celebrate this, as they do with sex work, or will they recognize the shameless exploitation of these women? Surrogacy, sex work, being a “mail order bride” to some abusive creep— these are not “choices” any woman wants to be forced into making.