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Yes, as severely as rape
Yes, but less severely than rape
No

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Coercion is one manifestation of rape, if you take rape to mean sexual acts that were lacking in freely given consent. I understand the need for precise language and believe it's beneficial to discuss the differing circumstances where someone is raped instead of treating it as monolithic (without diminishing it's severity in a given instance), but I still think this would qualify coercion as a type of rape, no?

I have an inkling that the reason society shies away from necessarily deeming coercion as rape, is that it would implicate the vast majority of men as rapists. And it's more comfortable to the average woman (and soothes the ego of the average man) to relegate rape to the domain of a select few deemed to have aberrant psychologies, instead of contending with the disquieting reality that most men have done something that logically amounts to rape.

This.

It is a relatively new development that most women can even afford to not get married. And even so, there still is massive social pressure to at least have a boyfriend.

All men, especially subpar men who do not add anything to a woman's life, benefit from this.

Now, I would consider coercion by society as a whole to be a bit different from direct, male on female coercion (be it violent, as in, using their physical strength to intimidate women, or financial, like using prostitutes) but still.

All men who have sex with women benefit from patriarchy, none of them can know for sure whether the women they have sex with would have decided to have sex with them if they were truly free.

That's a very uncomfortable thing to admit to oneself.

I don’t believe consent is something women can really do currently. I know that’s a hot take but tell me there’s ever a situation in which she can freely say no.