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It's a little bit late for International Women's Day, but it slipped my mind that I'd planned to replace this post then. But I guess it's always International Women's Day at Ovarit!

We've all got a Peak Trans story, but this thread is more of a 'Peak Patriarchy' - a place to share your journey into feminism.

I'm particularly interested in answers to questions like:

  • What drew you towards feminism?
  • What have been your experiences the feminist movement?
  • How did you first encounter feminist thought? Books or blogs, youtubers or conversatisions with feminst friends?
  • Has your feminism changed over your life? For instance, were you a liberal feminist who radicalised?
  • What changes has becoming a feminist made to your life, your perspectives, your activism, your relationships, etc?
  • What are your priorities as a feminist?

(This is not a questionnaire or a test - these are just prompts to get you thinking.)

Looking forward to reading everyone's responses!

Earlier threads: [1], [2]

It's a little bit late for International Women's Day, but it slipped my mind that I'd planned to replace this post then. But I guess it's always International Women's Day at Ovarit! We've all got a [Peak Trans](https://www.ovarit.com/o/GenderCritical/13499/peak-trans-reprise-iii-tell-your-story-here) story, but this thread is more of a 'Peak Patriarchy' - a place to share your journey into feminism. I'm particularly interested in answers to questions like: - What drew you towards feminism? - What have been your experiences the feminist movement? - How did you first encounter feminist thought? Books or blogs, youtubers or conversatisions with feminst friends? - Has your feminism changed over your life? For instance, were you a liberal feminist who radicalised? - What changes has becoming a feminist made to your life, your perspectives, your activism, your relationships, etc? - What are your priorities as a feminist? (This is not a questionnaire or a test - these are just prompts to get you thinking.) Looking forward to reading everyone's responses! Earlier threads: [[1](https://www.ovarit.com/o/WomensLiberation/2493/how-did-you-become-a-feminist-tell-your-story)], [[2](https://www.ovarit.com/o/WomensLiberation/10146/how-did-you-become-a-feminist-tell-your-story-part-2)]

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About, roughly, 10 years ago when I was on my early 20s, I was an ally. But more than that, I was pro-pornography, pro-prostitution, pro-TWAW, etc. Then things started to get a little too much. At some point I was so sick of all the Left™ stuff that I ended up finding myself on redpill groups, MGTOW groups and got close to incel and blackpill crap too. The "funny" thing is that I'm a biological woman (I hate having to use "identifiers" such as "biological" to explain what a woman is, but that's how things are now...), and still I would go to great lengths to try to convince myself that men are the real victims, that feminism is bullshit, that things are fucked up because women and feminism are destroying families and society, etc.

After a year inside that dystopian nightmare, I finally distanced myself from all that and became a "political homeless" and that felt good. I just thought "yeah, I don't care about anything anymore, fuck everyone", and I remained with that mindset until a couple of years ago (before the pandemics) when I saw the result of pushing these ideas out there. I can't pinpoint when or what exactly made me change my mind, but it was a combination of events. More specifically the amount of misogyny from both sides (left and right). One example: when I still had a twitter account, I came across a tweet talking about a TIM who had won a Miss Universe (or country) contest. One of the replies was from a man saying "men are better than women at everything, even at being women". The tone wasn't to mock the TIM, it was to belittle women. After that, there was all the shit show of women losing awards, spaces, recognition and voices because men decided that they were women too and even more oppressed.

Slowly, very slowly (considering it took me almost 10 years) I started changing my mind on many subjects (especially porn and prostitution), but the only group that would agree with me on those was the conservatives (= right) and I just disagreed with them too much to become one of them. Actually, by that time, I was already hating both the left and the right equally. I couldn't believe I was the only human who had this world view, so I googled some ideas and eventually found out about radical feminism and realized that is exactly what I think politically now.

But considering this happened recently, I'm still learning, especially about art. I know I will never change the world and save all women, but I would like to educate myself and make conscious choices when consuming entertainment and other things. I would like to support people who are trying to change both of these dehumanizing views of what women are and how they should behave (I'm also trying to do that in my own stories).

After stuffing myself with redpill crap, I got a fairly good bullshit alarm for the most extreme stuff, but the subtle ones still get me. Sometimes I found myself thinking "is this some weird shit disguised of progressiveness? Am I gonna suddenly be slapped in the face with a 'TWAW' or a 'FUCK OFF, TERF!'?"

I don't want to be paranoid, I just want to develop a better instinct. I have evaluated the media I consume and like and haven't found anything jarring. Of course, sometimes, on unrelated topics (like games, computers and technology) I get some lefty stuff like pronouns, but nothing beyond that (so far). I also wouldn't like to abandon those channels and projects just because they put some pronouns out there, but I'm starting to live with the fear that they will just completely go full TRA and say that people like me should be killed, raped or attempt suicide.

All that being said, how do you navigate the world after going radfem? (This is not a sad question, just trying to learn)

PS.: Sorry if this reads a little odd, English is not my first language.