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https://www.today.com/parents/today-survey-pandemic-parenting-finds-moms-are-burnt-out-t217123

Lots of stupid advice about "centering yourself" even just for a "few moments". Actually moms just need HELP. From the other half of the parental unit, AKA men. That's it. Just fucking share the childcare and chores already!!

I mean decent outside childcare that is actually affordable would also help. Reasonable leave and unemployment laws would also have been friggin great. But mainly: dads need to be pitching in as much as moms.

I absolutely despise this kind of mamby pamby crap that we spoon-feed to women. Women are the majority of Today's viewers. NAME THE ACTUAL PROBLEM.

https://www.today.com/parents/today-survey-pandemic-parenting-finds-moms-are-burnt-out-t217123 Lots of stupid advice about "centering yourself" even just for a "few moments". Actually moms just need HELP. From the other half of the parental unit, AKA *men*. That's it. Just fucking share the childcare and chores already!! I mean decent outside childcare that is actually affordable would also help. Reasonable leave and unemployment laws would also have been friggin great. But mainly: dads need to be pitching in as much as moms. I absolutely despise this kind of mamby pamby crap that we spoon-feed to women. Women are the majority of Today's viewers. NAME THE ACTUAL PROBLEM.

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[–] Boudicaea [OP] 5 points (+5|-0)

I feel like the current understanding is that women should be able to do this alone and if they can't they just need to learn to juggle a few minutes of self-care along with their other responsibilities.

That is EXACTLY the current understanding, as shown by this stupid article. We are expected to just keep sucking it up. Something has got to change.

[–] Vanya 2 points (+2|-0)

I worry especially because women aren't usually able to have free time to spend with other women, so they don't see how widespread it is. They're just stuck at home thinking this is how things are supposed to be, and unless they live with other female relatives they don't have anyone to help with housework or childcare.

[–] Boudicaea [OP] 2 points (+2|-0)

Yep. My little sister just had a baby. She is working full time, caring for a newborn, working on her master's and cleaning the house. I asked her where her husband is all day. He has some shitty job (my sister makes more money I think) and is a personal trainer, and also "needs his me time". I was like... what about your me time?!?

Only her MIL is helping. My dad lives in town, and two sisters (both childfree). I told her she needs to get my dad and my one unemployed sister to help out when she and her husband are both working. And stop worrying about a clean house. I am coming to visit and told her I would watch the baby while she gets things done/has some time to herself. She's super nervous about leaving her baby, ever, because she's breastfed exclusively and is scared to have the baby take formula. But is obviously not able to pump with a baby strapped to her 24/7 while doing all this. Don't even get me started on the anti-formula campaign, allegedly a "feminist" enterprise.

I dunno. I had my MIL when my son was born, thank God, otherwise I would have lost my mind. She passed away, so if we have another child I am worried. It is a really big problem that women are so isolated.