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[–] platypus 24 points (+24|-0)

I wonder if people have a hard time recognizing how fucking difficult and miserable it is to live as a woman, because they still assume there are men out there who will eventually marry us and and give us "good lives" and our struggles are just fleeting and superficial. Like "oh I can't afford the nice handbag I want, maybe I'll make an onlyfans" not "my toe is has been broken for 3 month and I can't afford to get it treated, I guess I'll make an onlyfans."

[–] IrishTheFrenchie 15 points (+15|-0)

They have tunnel vision and only think of “model perfect” women who “get married and never lift a finger” or who “manipulate men” to get money and gifts.

Well guess what? Life is easier for stunningly beautiful people of BOTH sexes. It’s been proven. Good looking men grift women all the time.

[–] levitation 5 points (+5|-0)

And men revere attractive men, aspire to be them, but hate and want to destroy/denigrate attractive women.

[–] Julie92845 0 points (+0|-0)

Like "oh I can't afford the nice handbag I want

There is some of that, to be sure.

[–] bossythecow 20 points (+20|-0)

I've said it a million times - if all labour under capitalism is coerced, and sex work is work, then sex work is coerced, too. And another word for coerced sex is rape. By their own logic, sex work is rape.

[–] destroyyourbinder 13 points (+13|-0)

Yes. They always compare it to "other" shitty jobs, as if we're the hypocrites for not mentioning that, I don't know, working in a deep freezer can give you emphysema. Yeah, I don't think that's a fair labor practice either, and none of those jobs would be fucking improved by adding a requirement to fuck any man who shows up. Labor activists understand that practices like tipping incentivize sexual harassment of workers, that women in certain jobs are captive audiences to sexually violating behavior (nurses, beauty workers, etc.) but turn the other way when the job is sexual harassment and violation.

I forget who wrote it, but someone once said that what you're paying for when you pay a woman for sex or sex services isn't the actual sexual act, it's paying to remove her ability to object to it, while it's happening or afterwards. The payment is essentially a contract that manufactures a kind of consent. We don't accept this argument ANYWHERE else in labor analysis, even the most milquetoast liberal critique of work contracts. It's pure misogyny that anyone accepts it with "sex work", and it's enthusiastic acceptance of rape that everyone's so willing to claim that a woman can assent to pretty much any kind of sex and remove her own right to object to what happened or the terms of her assent.

[–] IronicWolf 17 points (+17|-0)

It’s amazing the number of men who think women having the option of prostitution is a bonus and unfair advantage of the female sex.

There is nothing positive lurking in grimy industrial estates exchanging blowjobs for £5.

If it was a true positive, men would have flocked to it and would be selling their bodies in droves.

[–] Julie92845 0 points (+0|-0)

My abusive ex loved to talk about how rich he’d be if he were a woman because of camwhoring.

[–] questioningtw 6 points (+6|-0)

It makes me sick how people think women have it so damn easy because you can just be a sex worker! Yeah, I would much rather work a physicaly demanding job or flip burgers then grind on men's laps or have sex with men for money. Men don't want to be prostitutes; why is it only women that are expected to have zero self respect?

[–] banjo 6 points (+6|-0)

I think because men think all hetero sex is necessarily degrading for the woman. So they think all women either hate sex or like being degraded and abused.

[–] PlainSimpleTailor 6 points (+6|-0) Edited

It's truly beyond me how hetero men can expect sex to be degrading, abusive, unenjoyable and downright dehumanizing to women and also think it permanently lowers their value, but also act like it's women's privilege to be able to "gatekeep" sex from men, and think like they're actually good guys who respect women, and definitely not abusers or rapists... It all makes complete sense in their minds, and they don't hear what they're saying.

[–] Julie92845 0 points (+0|-0)

With the internet you can now be a sex worker and never have sex with anyone. I still don’t agree with it but I see why it’s appealing to some over flipping burgers.