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Does anyone know good answers? Or is it better to just ignore it? That's what basically every girl I know does but tbh I'm hella fed up w that. Any ideas?

Does anyone know good answers? Or is it better to just ignore it? That's what basically every girl I know does but tbh I'm hella fed up w that. Any ideas?

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[–] Amareldys 32 points (+32|-0) Edited

This varies drastically from place to place. In some places, you ignore it and walk on or the guy will think you're into him. In others, you return in kind with friendly banter or you risk men screaming at you for being a stuck-up bitch. Know the street culture of where you are.

[–] IronicWolf 26 points (+26|-0)

Pretend you didn’t hear it and didn’t realise it was for you.

Whatever reason they’re doing it for, I’m pretty sure it’s not for it to go completely unnoticed by the target so, to me, that seems the best idea.

[–] goodyusername 31 points (+31|-0)

I have more than once turned to the dude, looked him in the eyes, smiled and said, "Sorry, I didn't hear what you said?" They looked down and muttered, "Nothing."

A dude once made a little mocking imitation of me running, so I pulled off my headphones and yelled, "My first run since I finished chemo!"

I am now too old to be ogled, which is great. Not that it's a ticket to safety, rapists don't care about age.

[–] remquarqk 15 points (+15|-0)

A dude once made a little mocking imitation of me running, so I pulled off my headphones and yelled, "My first run since I finished chemo!"

Okay, I'm stealing this.

[–] OneStarWolf 20 points (+20|-0)

I’ve always ignored, pretend I didn’t hear. Always makes me nervous, because I know there’s a chance the guy will get mad and want to confront me no matter what I do.

[–] hedy 17 points (+17|-0)

It's about controlling you, so do whatever you were doing.

I occasionally scream back in rage despite the fear of getting stalked and/or my head bashed in. I do not recommend this but sometimes I cannot contain my rage that is accepted and legal to be subjected to lifelong harassment just for being female in public.

Even if there were nothing but an unenforceable law against it, I could at least pretend to call the police and scare some idiots.

A few years ago a law was passed in Montreal effectively banning bilingualism in businesses. It was legally unenforceable and everybody knew it. Still, the familiar greeting of "bonjour hi" on entering a shop was replaced with "bonjour" overnight.

I can think of a far more useful application for an unenforceable speech-policing law, anywhere, but apparently too many people don't care or are eager to protect their freedom to harass women for leaving their homes.

[–] Rhapsody 17 points (+17|-0)

Sadly you really should just walk away because shit like this: (story below) could happen.

A friend of mine was walking back to her car the other day and some asshat catcalls her from his car saying “you should smile!” So she responded with “say something funny then” in hopes of shutting him up, but this man was so unhinged that he escalated it by replying “oh you want to see something funny then?!” proceeds to exit his car, fully exposes himself and proceeds to gyrate himself in the motion of a helicopter as she ran away.

I told her that was sexual assault and she should report it. So no, responding is NOT the best idea because they might take it as a challenge and put you in further danger.

[–] takshak 12 points (+12|-0)

If you have the space, Have accepted the Lord Hare Krishna into your heart" usually works, and makes other people laugh at them.

[–] UberBitchcraft 11 points (+11|-0)

I ignore it completely. I don’t make eye contact and just keep walking, but depending on the situation, I’ll start to power walk as fast as I can.

[–] yangsun 10 points (+10|-0)

You haven't got a clue whether or not the guy will go ham on you or worse, so it's better to ignore it than to shout back.

[–] winterghost 9 points (+9|-0)

i tend to ignore them, but when i was a teenager i insulted them back the best ways i knew how because i just saw red

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