I recently had this discussion with a male friend. I told him my period was late but that I didn't suspect pregnancy since I had used protection. I also made the comment that if i were to be pregnant I'd get an abortion within a minuet since I have a lot going on for me that I'd rather focus on.
He immediately told me he hopes I wouldn't have to resort to that. He also flat out said an abortion would take a negative psychological effect on me and could potentially lead to me becoming depressed.
I don't negate that for some women an abortion is not an option that they'd ever envisioned taking and I respect and understand them. However I'm a young University student with no plans of having children within the next decade so why would my friend tell me what I would feel after an abortion? He's not at all an anti-abortionist in fact he strongly believing in the right to an abortion.
What bothers me is that assumption society, both women and men seem to have. That if you've had an abortion you must feel remorse, you must be sad and depressed. That women that have decided to have an abortion can't feel good about their decision.
I told him that if I was pregnant and I got an abortion I'd probably feel incredible relief and happiness and I could se how that was not the reaction and answer he wanted fro me.