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The latest New York Magazine cover story is "The Men Who Died at Rikers". Generally, it's a pretty thought provoking and sad piece. But check out the way they framed this clearly abusive relationship:

Velasco started to drink more; he became convinced Van Stry would leave him for someone more successful. Their arguments could turn scary and physical. “I can’t count how many times I had him arrested and took him back,” she says. Everyone in their lives agreed that the relationship was toxic. But the couple couldn’t seem to end it. “He showed so much good and so much love,” Van Stry says. In 2017, he sent her a valentine from Rikers with a rose sculpted from toilet paper.

There's more, but I don't want to make this post too long. I'm just taken aback by the passive voice and weasel words about an obvious abuser. The most direct language is the victim blaming herself for his arrests.

It sucks, because I definitely support criminal justice reform. But time after time, the leftists on this issue show their contempt for women and for victims. Why can't we say prisons should be humane without white washing the terror some prisoners inflicted on their victims?

It's like every time a death penalty case comes around and the usual suspects paint him as a teddy bear, and then you read the crime and it's horrific beyond words.

The latest New York Magazine cover story is ["The Men Who Died at Rikers".](https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/rikers-inmates-died-2021.html) Generally, it's a pretty thought provoking and sad piece. But check out the way they framed this clearly abusive relationship: >Velasco started to drink more; he became convinced Van Stry would leave him for someone more successful. **Their arguments could turn scary and physical**. “I can’t count how many times **I had him arrested** and took him back,” she says. Everyone in their lives agreed that the relationship was toxic. But **the couple couldn’t seem to end it**. “He showed so much good and so much love,” Van Stry says. In 2017, he sent her a valentine from Rikers with a rose sculpted from toilet paper. There's more, but I don't want to make this post too long. I'm just taken aback by the passive voice and weasel words about an obvious abuser. The most direct language is the victim blaming herself for his arrests. It sucks, because I definitely support criminal justice reform. But time after time, the leftists on this issue show their contempt for women and for victims. Why can't we say prisons should be humane without white washing the terror some prisoners inflicted on their victims? It's like every time a death penalty case comes around and the usual suspects paint him as a teddy bear, and then you read the crime and it's horrific beyond words.

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Honestly I think because once people learn how depraved some of these men are, they lose all sympathy and it undermines the original purpose of articles like these.

They should not talk about the crimes at all rather than white washing them, though.