Based on a comment I made in another post about why saying "no" and just leaving is often not enough.
Throughout my life I have often experienced that when I say no to something, because I don't want to do it, it's usally a cue for the requester to start "negotiating". This can be anything from suggesting something slightly different to guilt-tripping or even anger. "I am only asking you do x/y/z".
It's usually not untill I become angry myself and start using profanity that people will drop the subject and go with plan B, which is to resolve the situation themselves or ask someone else. It usually ends with the following parting line: "I was only asking. No need to get angry about it."
Which usually leaves me thinking "Oh, really? I didn't need to get angry? Then why did you not accept my no when I was still calm? "
I can't even count the number of times this has happened and I get it from both men and women. A child wants to play a game, but I don't? I should just do it and not spoil his afternoon. Someone wants me to do them a favor, but it's a huge time and energy commitment on my part? It's just a "little thing" I should rearrange my schedule around, just because they asked.
I find that often I'd rather lie and tell a requester it's impossible than tell people no, because that's usually the start of an argument.
Has anyone else experienced this? Why is saying no so fucking hard?