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[–] lavender 12 points (+12|-0)

Ah, this is something I've struggled with since I hit my thirties. One day you wake up and realize nothing in media reflects you anymore. It's a literal Sahara desert for representation of women past the age of thirty-five! Instead, you get look forward to being called "Karen" and dismissed as out-of-touch, an annoying hag that needs to go away. Young women should hopefully realize that they're going to age too, and their dismissal of older women is paving the road to their own misery. Though in the age of SNS, where youth reigns supreme, I'm not so sure...

[–] gold_bee 10 points (+10|-0)

As an aside, it's so unhealthy how society primes women to think that they need to have everything sorted by 30-35 y.o.... get married, get a house, kids on the way, education and career set. I think that feeds the internalized misogyny that can cause younger women to be dismissive of older women.

It's sad to see young women stressing out about this, as if they will turn into an unlovable pumpkin on their 40th birthday. You're literally only halfway through your life at that point!

[–] Verdandi 5 points (+5|-0)

I've spent so much time stressing out about my accomplishments at my age that I literally wasted the last years of my 20s in a horrible depression, accomplishing nothing.

[–] gold_bee 1 points (+1|-0)

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that! But you did accomplish something - you got through a tough spot and now have the clarity & wisdom from getting through it. That's tremendous, imo.

My late 20s were also a time of great anxiety and self-flagellation (perhaps we all deal with that?) Hugs to you :)

[–] GenderHeretic 8 points (+8|-0) Edited

Young women should hopefully realize that they're going to age too, and their dismissal of older women is paving the road to their own misery.

The myopia of young women dismissing all older women as "Goddamn women" is bizarre to me. I can see that they do it as an age-related variation on "not like other girls", a way of setting themselves apart as acceptable by throwing other women under the bus, but seriously— you don't know that everyone will age? How do you not see that this is self-sabotaging?

[–] lavender 6 points (+6|-0)

It really is bizarre! It could be a subconscious attempt to deny the reality waiting for them. I can also imagine it's a symptom of being young--your teens and twenties seem like they'll go on forever, until you turn thirty and realize time really does move.

[–] inTERFerence 4 points (+4|-0)

Thinking back it was maybe because I thought I could avoid aging at all. Everyone has an awareness of age and some idea that they might age, of course, but if you look up Audrey Hepburn on google images all of the photos are her as some twenty-something ingenue, despite achieving so much more later in life. It's a viscous cycle: if we're not exposed to more examples of older women we will never aspire to be them.