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What do you think about going topless on the beach?

If I am on a deserted beach early in the morning I'll always swim topless. It's more comfortable and nicer in the sea and then sitting on the beach to dry off it's nicer not having a wet thing on your body (apart from bottoms). It would be nice to be completely naked but I genuinely wouldn't want to shock/offend anyone and I would NOT like to see a naked man swimming so it would be hypocritical of me to do the same in case a dog walker or something turned up.

On a more crowded beach I'm less confident/comfortable for obvious reasons.

Last summer I was on a beach in Wales and a couple of young women were topless and I said, "that's cool that you feel confident, I can only go topless when there's no one around",
and they said, "you should join us,"
and I said, "OK", and it was fine.

Being in a group felt safer and normalised it. But she also said a man had told her off earlier that day, complained that it wasn't appropriate on a beach with children around. She said it wasn't her problem if he was sexualising her body seeing as breasts exist to feed children.

I can see it both ways. I don't think there's anything positive or feminist about revealing my body for men to stare at (or, more likely at my age, criticise) but i also don't think there's anything positive about feeling like I have to cover myself up on the beach when all the men get to go around topless. Bikinis are arguably barely less sexualising than being topless, especially some of the tiny/weird/cutout designs that are fashionable right now. Full swimsuits are uncomfortable (the more wet nylon is stuck to my body the more uncomfortable my skin feels and I even get a rash from damp stuff on my skin for hours). So-called "modest wear" looks horrendously uncomfortable and impractical and I resent the implication that I'm not "modest" or that "modesty" is something to aspire to.

What do you think about going topless on the beach? If I am on a deserted beach early in the morning I'll always swim topless. It's more comfortable and nicer in the sea and then sitting on the beach to dry off it's nicer not having a wet thing on your body (apart from bottoms). It would be nice to be completely naked but I genuinely wouldn't want to shock/offend anyone and I would NOT like to see a naked man swimming so it would be hypocritical of me to do the same in case a dog walker or something turned up. On a more crowded beach I'm less confident/comfortable for obvious reasons. Last summer I was on a beach in Wales and a couple of young women were topless and I said, "that's cool that you feel confident, I can only go topless when there's no one around", and they said, "you should join us," and I said, "OK", and it was fine. Being in a group felt safer and normalised it. But she also said a man had told her off earlier that day, complained that it wasn't appropriate on a beach with children around. She said it wasn't her problem if he was sexualising her body seeing as breasts exist to feed children. I can see it both ways. I don't think there's anything positive or feminist about revealing my body for men to stare at (or, more likely at my age, criticise) but i also don't think there's anything positive about feeling like I have to cover myself up on the beach when all the men get to go around topless. Bikinis are arguably barely less sexualising than being topless, especially some of the tiny/weird/cutout designs that are fashionable right now. Full swimsuits are uncomfortable (the more wet nylon is stuck to my body the more uncomfortable my skin feels and I even get a rash from damp stuff on my skin for hours). So-called "modest wear" looks horrendously uncomfortable and impractical and I resent the implication that I'm not "modest" or that "modesty" is something to aspire to.

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[–] BogHag 34 points Edited

With all woman, I'd be down all day every day. Add a single male and I'm out.

Even if they're respectful or if it's a boy child. I don't care. Men ruin the vibe.

I feel pretty much the same as you. Breasts are not sexual, and going topless is perfectly okay when children are around ... but I very much wouldn't like the men staring at me, which they absolutely would if I went topless.

We need women-only beaches.

Yes!! Definitely. Provided they actually were Woman Only

Yes, I think they’d very quickly turn into beaches full of TIMs barely concealing their erections in comically small bikinis unfortunately

This is where the actual male allies need to step up and fight the battle of the bulge

There would likely be all kinds of men sitting around the borders of the beach gawking at the women.

We can dream.

If we lived in a truly fair society it would be a given that women would have their own spaces especially places like beaches where you tend to wear less.

Exactly this.. I'd do it more often if men didn't stare. I like going topless, swimming is nice that way too..

Thankfully my Spa has a woman only nudist area and saunas.

Yeah, swimming is so nice topless. Your spa sounds great. I find it hard to relax in a sauna as there's always some dude needs to come in a spread his legs and sweat and stare. (I am never topless in a spa BTW!!!)

I'd love to try it. But with everyone (ie. men) carrying cameras in their pockets nowadays? It would have to be a deserted area or somewhere guaranteed to be female only.

I miss when going for a walk or swim or ride or just sitting wasn’t fodder for permanent public viewing. Living under surveillance is inhuman.

I am not bothered by it, my tits want sunshine, baby! I'm at the point in my life that I don't care if men stare or not, that is their problem. My body deserves to feel the fresh air and the beaming sun; my breasts especially, since they do so much to provide for my little one.

I've done it. I went to a nude beach once in San Francisco. I "passed" as a boy as a kid, and one of the things I miss most about childhood was the freedom to swim bare chested. I didn't have to start covering up until I was 11, when my mom essentially told me the fun was over.

So I was eager to go to a nude beach so I could finally feel free again, and it was a positive experience. I'd be happy to swim topless around where I live, except I don't think it's legal, and even if it was, it would draw too much negative attention.

[–] tahmahrah 2 points Edited

I no longer care if men stare at me or ogle me. I mean, it bothers me, but I refuse to cover up or conceal myself as if I were the damn problem, since men will still want you and be overt about it no matter what you do or do not wear.

The only reason I don't go around topless in areas where it's allowed is because I don't want some random creep to sneak a picture/video and post it online somewhere to be seen/masturbated to by potentially thousands upon thousands of men.

Now, one might think, what's the difference between 20 men at a beach staring at you and 1,000 more doing so anonymously through a screen?

For me, it's about invasion of privacy/being robbed of the "choice" entirely. Not to mention it potentially being seen by a future employer, etc.

It's the newfound surveillance state that now stops me, essentially.

I was in the Carribean and went topless. I loved it.

I noticed that the younger women don’t do that anymore, at that beach anyway. Maybe it’s because of social media or pervs posting on the internet?

Anyway. It’s one of the benefits of being 50 and having nursed my 4 kids

As for kids, it was good for my kids to see breasts in a non sexual light.

In countries where it's fairly normal for women to be topless on the beach it definitely seems older women do it more and younger women do it less. However I remember the beaches in the South of France in the 80s and 90s and in my distant memory (I was a child) it was similar: older women more likely to be topless than the younger. But in general it was more common then than now.

I wonder if there's a universal effect where women feel more comfortable with their bodies the older they get. I also think it demonstrates that wanting to be topless for 99% of women is not sexual but is simply about enjoying the feeling of sun and sea on your skin and feeling natural.

A couple of years in Spain nearly all the Spanish women were topless, all ages.

I mean older women are mostly invisible to predatory pervy males. So you don't get the same harassment.

Yes, and that makes you more confident with your body. Male gaze and male predators are a big reason young women feel uncomfortable with their bodies.

I am not bothered at all by extra fabric and need the support. I definitely do not have "nudist" in me, I feel absolutely no joy or freedom of not having clothes on. Not judging those that do, I just can't relate at all. Even at home I am pretty much fully dressed any time I am not actively showering.

[–] hmimperialtortie cats plz 3 points

Glad to see someone else saying this! I wasn’t going to comment because I can’t swim, so there’s no point in going to the beach in summer. But I too don’t find any freedom in being naked. I sleep that way because it’s too hot to wear nightclothes when you have two cats sharing the bed. Otherwise, nope. Naked butt on my furniture, no thanks. Blinds drawn so nobody will see me, why bother? Besides, I make my own jumpers and take much more pleasure in them than in being made aware of all my damn skin tags.

Technically illegal where I live but there's a long history of nude beaches. I see lots of older women sunbathing topless in the summer and one of my friends still likes to go nude at a semi-secluded spot.

One time, though, on a school trip to the beach, there was a woman sunbathing face down with the back of her top undone. The teenage guys spent like 25+ minutes trying to "accidentally" scare her with a volleyball so she would sit up and flash them. So men actively make it impossible when it would otherwise be enjoyable and safe.

I wouldn't unless it was guaranteed that I would be alone. I've never felt comfortable being naked around others or having naked bodies around me. Even in a locker room, I turn my back to other women when changing and stare at my feet or into my locker. The sole exception to all this has been with a sexual partner. Nudity then doesn't matter.

Now, I was once part of a group that performed skyclad rituals. It was something I could do, but never really liked. I never experienced the sense of 'liberation' others felt at shedding their clothes. I much preferred the dress-up of wearing ritual robes.

[–] BlackCirce 🔮🐖🐖🐖 4 points

Wearing clothes already sucks, wearing wet clothes is worse. People do get offended but it depends a lot on the country. Men are divided between being enthusiastic about naked women and being offended. I guess it might depend on how ugly we are perceived to be. Putting on clothing even that covers my whole body (which is what I wear all year) does not stop men from bothering me. I can’t explain how much I wish being clothed and “modest” had any affect on men’s behavior towards me. As a side note this seems like a reason women and teen girls are getting cosmetic mastectomies, to not have to cover their breasts at the beach or pool. That’s how fucked up this world is.

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