I know I've asked for this before. I know others have asked for it. Mods, I know you have declined us kindly due to resource issues and have hopes for this in the future. I have nothing but respect for you. But, I felt the need to raise this topic again because of the stuff we're seeing today.

I don't think we, boymoms, have many resources on how to raise a son.

For example, I follow a lot of "gentle parenting" resources and they have specific phrases that you have prepared to say when a situation arises, so that you can be ready. When my kid is having a temper tantrum, instead of telling him to just stop crying, I have phrases for talking about "big emotions".

When it comes to raising a boy in a way that is counter cultural, I get vague... "teach him about consent." Maybe I'm setting the bar too high, but I don't think simply following yes/no is true respect for women. That's just a minimum. And even that, I don't really have like phrases I can practice (except how to tell grandma not to force a hug).

And what about gender? How do I encourage respect for women, while not teaching him that his sex is something to be ashamed of and to attempt to change. Cause if I let him grow up thinking "men are trash" and he goes to public school where he's being taught trans ideology, the natural course of that is "men are trash. I am not trash, or I don't want to be. I must be a woman." Do I have practical resources to fight against this? No.

And then there's this... woke men allies who are just... I don't even have the words. How do I encourage him to grow in a good way, but not become this... thing.

What I'm seeing here is that there is a subset of Ovarit that are moms and want to contribute to helping break the cycle. But there's really three parents here -- mom, dad, and culture. At least one of those is not going to comply. Ovarit is uniquely positioned for moms to share resources to weaken patriarchy at the bud... but we need to share those resources. We need support of each other.

Ovarit Mods, I know your resources are so tight. I know the answer is probably still a no. But can you possibly share what resources are needed? What are the blockers? How can we help you so that you can safely allow this circle to exist?