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Advice wantedSafety Concerns
Hi all!
I hope this is the correct circle to post this. I've been wanting to become more active but can no longer afford the gym. I want to start running/walking outside in my neighborhood or parks but I struggle with fear. I was assaulted some years ago and still feel very afraid when I'm alone and I notice men around me. However, I want to enjoy the outdoors and feel it would be good for my mental health.
What safety tips or methods have any of you used to mitigate these feelings?
edit: thank you all for your replies and helpful tips!! you are all amazing
LOL. I love that analogy! Its so apt now that the awful Drag Race show is popular and these dudes are becoming millionaires simply by putting on a dress and some Tammy Faye makeup
Drag was tolerable back when it was a gay male subculture and you had to actively seek it out if you wanted to see it. But I'm growing to hate it more and more now that its literally being shoved in everyone's faces (and woke assholes think its a brave act of resistance to make children interact with these Sex Clowns)
Agree. My local library hosted a drag show for children’s story time and my local coffee shop had one too. I had fun at drag shows in my youth but I would never take a young child to one or consider it to be a worthy act. And I’m not homophobic or remotely conservative.
I've been bisexual since before I knew it was possible and a hippie pinko liberal since I was old enough to have politics, and the most positive I've felt about drag has been politely feigned interest because my friends were into it. Then I realized that women are allowed to have dignity and drag is misogyny, and my opinion has taken a definite nosedive.
was there an epiphany-triggering single event or experience that made you "realize that Women are allowed to have dignity" at whatever point?
Not all at once, but exiting a relationship with a true male degenerate and deprogramming myself from it was the process that led to it.
Thank you for sharing 🥰 and congratulations on "leveling up" in the game of life!
Thanks. The realization is its own reward, but the recognition is nice as well.
SEX CLOWNS!!! Lololol. That is the perfect way to describe them. That's all I'm gonna call them now. Oh god
there was even a drag queen on rupaul's drag race (who was later exposed as a predator to an underage girl, and exposed as a racist, but anyone who had watched their season could realise they were) who had a tattoo of tammy faye! i cringe how much i liked drag as a libfem and how much i know about it now lol
You're absolutely right. I think for many gay men who were always shamed for doing "feminine" things, drag was very subversive and, dare I say, empowering. But only in a specific context that you mentioned. The kind of drag that is "female impersonation" needs to be left behind in 2023.
It does NOT work on national television. RuPaul is first and foremost a capitalist, and he has no qualms saying so. He will do whatever it takes to make more money. The result is branding drag queens as modern superheroes who are changing the world for the better. This branding makes his TV show better and makes him more money. I don't even think he believes it.
Trying to watch Drag Race today is even more insufferable than ever because, atop of the womanface, the contestants are so narcissistic. They speak as though they're the most important people in the world who are single-handedly saving lives by putting on wigs and makeup.
I think you hit on why Drag Race bros are so insufferable. They act as if they're modern day MLK Jrs fighting against oppression. Old school drag may have been just as sexist as modern drag. But at least old school drag performers were just having fun and didn't claim that putting on a beehive wig made them civil rights heroes
That's why I do have a soft spot for some of the older queens, like Tyra Sanchez (now changed his name to "King Tyra") who won season 2 of Drag Race. He said this