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DiscussionMale Reactions to Female Fat Activists
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Lately, I’ve been watching some cringey fat acceptance videos (I know, I know) as they motivate me to keep (healthily and slowly, mind you) losing weight and getting fit. However, I notice that a lot of male YouTubers (e.g. Not DayVit, TheCynicalDude – I just find them funny and entertaining to watch, though sometimes ignorant) who react to these videos – which are usually of female fat activists – say, “If you ate like me, you’ll lose weight 100%,” and that “overall, our bodies are pretty much the same”.
Don’t get me wrong, I do think if people ate better quality foods and fewer quantities of junk foods, and moved more, that would help lose weight, albeit maybe slowly (speaking for myself, though. That’s what I’ve been doing personally.). Correct me if I’ve gotten something wrong or if I’ve been insensitive, that’s just my understanding of it.
What I have an issue with is this, though – “our bodies are pretty much the same”.
But… they’re not? It just made me think of all the times women have been disregarded and neglected in the medical industry, safety procedures regarding vehicles, medicine dosages, other things, etc. Women being treated as if we’re just smaller, more vulnerable men and not as the separate, completely-our-own sex that we are. Men will gain musculature, lose weight easier (I think?), etc. They could cut out soda and lose quite a lot of weight. For women, I believe it’s a bit different? Overall, I just think a lot of these men are clueless and insensitive when it comes to women’s physiology, and it comes across as patronising and shitty.
What do you think about it?
Edit 2.0: Personally, I find a lot of fat activists ridiculous when they lecture and make reaches, though I will concede they do raise some valid points (e.g. regarding doctors and getting dismissed, particularly if they have a tumour and it hasn't been diagnosed). I understand initially it may have originated from a well-meaning place, but I think a lot of it has gone off the rails. It's not good to be underweight and it's not good to be overweight. Why does it have to be one extreme or the other?
I was gonna say, having lots of liquid cash on hand says “rich” to me. Having a high credit card balance you can’t pay every month says “poor”.
There's also often a difference between how generationally/long-term rich people versus temporarily rich people approach it; the former tend to be relatively understated and less conspicuous/flashy, live within their means, and always have an eye on where to cut costs, while people who have suddenly found themselves wealthy can very quickly and easily spend themselves into a very deep hole. Plus just the sheer number of rich people who could easily be busted for tax evasion in one form or another, whether employing/paying people for services under the table, accepting payments for things in cash, making huge purchases in cash without paying sales taxes, etc. Credit/transactions conducted through a bank are for things that are write-offs, or conspicuous (main income, real estate, etc.).
TLDR, 'real' rich people aren't just good at spending money, but at saving it. And one of the ways a lot of them save it unscrupulously is by cutting the government out of getting a cut of a lot of transactions, which tends to mean cash. More above board, it means not paying interest on credit card balances.