Question for people who run meetup groups

QuestionQuestion for people who run meetup groups

Posted December 25, 2022 by spanishdub in Lesbians

Hi everyone! After getting the idea from a post here, I started a meetup group for lesbians (I already have a few requests to join!). I’m new to meetup so I just wanted to ask if anyone has experience with trans people trying to join? This is a preemptive question because so far all the requests have been from women but I’m worried about my group being banned if I don’t let certain people join. If anyone has any experience with running a group, please let me know! Thanks :)

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broccolipathsofglory

January 12, 2025

Gaslighting doesn't usually go from 0-100 in a week. It's a slow process that escalates, like the frog in a pot of boiling water. It's often really, really hard to see. The good thing is that you've seen it and now you know what it's like and hopefully you can avoid men like this in the future. Take care of yourself.

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fixingentropy

January 12, 2025

Thanks. I feel like shit lol. At least I'm mad now and don't have to pine over him because it wasn't real.

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broccolipathsofglory

January 12, 2025

Please don't beat yourself up over this. It's so easy to fall for this crap. Abusive, manipulative men are so good at what they do. Chalk it up as a lesson learned so you never have to experience this again.

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Posted December 25, 2022 by spanishdub

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