I think I’ve had my worst dating experience yet

Story TimeI think I’ve had my worst dating experience yet

Posted April 16, 2021 by kitinverde in Lesbians

I was seeing this woman for a month. Things were going great. She told me how into me she was and that she wasn’t seeing anyone else. Last Wednesday she went out to the bar with her friends. This Wednesday night she texted me that she missed me & couldn’t wait to go to football games with me this fall.

Yesterday morning she messages me that she met someone suddenly and unexpectedly and has decided to pursue a relationship with them because the connection is off the charts. The best I can figure was it was out at the bar last Wednesday.

I was so hesitant to let this woman in. I’ve been burned and I was cautious. I’m just so lost and confused, mostly because less than 12 hours before it was over, she was still talking about being with me? I don’t think I’m all that devastated about losing her, it’s all around the shittiness of how it was handled. Telling me the things she did when she was considering ending things with me seems unnecessarily cruel. And excuse my ego, but I feel like my self esteem has been hit by a bus. I was apparently all these wonderful things, but a person she met “suddenly” was better???

Andddd in my sad tears I messaged a different woman I’ve been hopelessly in love with, but who is trying to focus on herself right now. She misses me too and is willing to take my lead on friendship if I want it, and fuck me, I can’t imagine my life without her (I’ve been fucking miserable since November when she realized that she needed to actually heal), so I guess I’m going for friendship. To be honest, there was nothing nicer than swapping our stories about the past few months and everything kind of feeling normal and alright again. But I don’t know if I can sustainably keep my heart out of it.

So yeah, I really just needed to vent.

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Posted April 16, 2021 by kitinverde

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