What am I doing wrong? :'D

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Serious DiscussionWhat am I doing wrong? :'D

Posted July 2, 2023 by TheLesbianPoet in Lesbians

I don't have any luck in dating it seems.

I got out of a toxic 2 year long ldr around 5 or 6 months ago (but it was over for me way before that).

I don't have a problem attracting women either in person or on dating apps (not using HER, fuck them). But I end up attracting either bicurious women or virgin lesbians and I end up getting all their unresolved shit projected onto me.

I tried to tweak how I interact with women. I went from going on a few dates then them going home with me, having one night stands, spending months subtly courting another woman. Nothing sticks.

I don't particularly yearn for an intense romantic relationship, I just want somewhat long term company in the sense of at least a fwb or a casual fling. It seems like once we've spent the night together, or a few, the mystery wears off for them and no longer want to continue. Of course I've had a few dates where I didn't want to see them again, but damn the numbers are getting up there with them using me as validation or something else.

Has this happened to you? What am I doing wrong? How do I fix this?

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BlackCirce

May 30, 2022

You can do 3x5 instead of 5x5

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May 31, 2022

Posted July 2, 2023 by TheLesbianPoet

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