I hate being a lesbian in this current generation.

Posted August 26, 2021 by lemonberrylesbian in Lesbians

10 years ago, I was proud of my sexuality. I loved going to pride. I loved going to gay bars. I loved meeting other lesbian women and having our own spaces to talk about a bunch of gay girl stuff.

And here we are now.. Where I'm shamed for not liking penis, banned for being gay, there's no real lesbians in any of the "lesbian" groups, I'm supposed to just accept that men have completely taken over all our spaces or I'm called a terf. I'm supposed to let them change the definition of "lesbianism" to be something else. An umbrella term. And its funny because they basically want to change it to "gynosexuality", which already exists yet they refuse to use it. TIMs want to take what belongs to us instead.

I hate this so much. I've always liked being gay, but the aggression of the trans movement really is ruining it for me. I remember a decade ago when I was in a bunch of public lesbian forums online and it was mainly actual women. We had ladies nights at gay bars and there were even some lesbian-exclusive bars. We fought SO HARD to earn those spaces!!! And now its like 90% TIMs and those of us that are actual lesbians end up leaving the spaces because of it, essentially them being taken over. The more years that have gone by, the more I've distanced myself from any gay communities and whenever I look back, I see its only gotten worse and worse.

And it sucks, because like. I love my sexuality. I love talking to girls that are like me and can relate.. But this trans movement is trying so hard to erase what a lesbian actually is.

Lesbian erasure is awful. There's more trans people than us now, when they were once said to be "incredibly rare". Its crazy how lesbians are now the biggest minority of LGB and all the other stuff thrown on to it. Also funny how you barely ever see an FTM or an MTF that likes men.. Its a bunch of straight TIMs that want to dominate our spaces. On top of that, just writing this out feels so weird.. I keep feeling like I need to go back and "tone down" certain parts. I'm so used to walking on eggshells on every other site. Just awful.

I don't want to live in this generation anymore.. I feel so lost. How do you all handle it..?

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Posted August 26, 2021 by lemonberrylesbian

Edited August 26, 2021

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