Are you me? I’m a young butch, and I only have straight friends 😂 I’ve never been in a relationship either, only an awkward casual situationship, and a high school girlfriend I was with for about a month lmao. I probably have no helpful advice, but I feel like all other young lesbians should know that you don’t have to be in a relationship at all! There’s no need to “prove” your orientation to anyone by having a girlfriend who you aren’t super attracted to/compatible with (even if she’s the only other lesbian you know), and there’s no shame in being single. The lesbian dating scene is such a mess at the moment. I’ve read accounts from older dykes who say that it was much easier to find a lover “back in the day” because all lesbians (at least in some cities) had to stick together due to discrimination. Now that we are more integrated into society, our population has diluted, and we are less likely to run into other lesbians “in the wild”. For me personally, I’ve always found dating apps a bit gross, and not many of the users actually are interested in proper relationships. So I’ve decided to stay single until I meet a wonderful femme “the old fashioned way”.

Give yourself freedom to explore your presentation / style. Chop off your hair, grow it long, dress butch, throw on a dress -- do whatever feels right that day and don't feel like you need to fit into a "category," especially while you're still young.

On that same note, being single is a great time to invest in yourself and becoming firm in your identity. Many lesbians couples have a tendency to merge in many senses of the word, especially when you're younger, so it's always good to be confident in who you are before entering a serious relationship :)

Finally, have fun! Being a lesbian can be such a beautiful life -- you can to truly prioritize female relationships in so many ways, which can be so soul-enriching.

You've got time. I say this as someone in her twenties - you're young, it's okay not to have everything lined up perfectly right now. I felt super inadequate in terms of relationships for ages because I didn't have my first proper relationship until I was 22, and everybody around me has been dating since they were teens. But everybody around me is straight! It's normal to be a lesbian and start dating a little later than our straight peers, simply because there are fewer of us. But as the other commenter said, you don't need to 'prove' your orientation to anybody. It's okay to be single. The most important thing is to focus on your own growth and wellbeing <3

First and foremost, love yourself. This is not lesbian specific advice, but I do think this is much harder for us. And it's ultimately not great advice, since the doing is very, very much different than the telling. But it's vital, at least in my opinion. That's how you bring your best self to your relationships, and how you exist in this world despite all the pressures against you. But if you love yourself, respect yourself, you'll be able to resist the pressures of the world and bring your best self to both your loves and yourself.

It took me years after coming out to find a girlfriend and be in a stable relationship. About six years. It can be exhausting going on dates and weeding out the weirdos and non lesbians. Remember to take breaks and spend time on yourself! Focus on your career, health, and well being. Also as a young lesbian, its fun to explore all the lesbian classics( movie, tv, books). Saphicunderground on youtube has some good starting points.

The fact you found your way to Ovarit, says to me you're on the right track. I think young lesbians, especially those who have to go online to find like-minded people, are the most vulnerable to this gender ideology bs. It's unbelievable what it's come to and alot of pressure to withstand.