Discomfort with male-attracted women

QuestionDiscomfort with male-attracted women

Posted September 18, 2023 by JLT in Lesbians

I've noticed that the male-attracted part of bisexual/heterosexual women makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to hear them talk about their current or ex boyfriend/husband, and I don't really like hearing about their dating preferences wrt to men. It affects me in other unexpected area; for example, I can't do peer counseling work with women who were abused by their male partners because I feel disgusted with the male-attraction when I should be feeling empathy for the violence they faced. The discomfort ranges from boredom and irritation to disgust and anger.

Does anybody else feel this way? Is there a way to deal with these feelings? It's specifically only this aspect of these women's lives. I have no other issues talking or being friendly with them. But when they talk about their attraction to men, it really grosses me out. By contrast, it does not bother me when men discuss being attracted to women. I don't spend any time with gay men, so I don't know if I would be similarly disgusted with their attraction to men, but I'm leaning towards a yes. Should I only befriend other lesbians?

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Posted September 18, 2023 by JLT

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