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A rant from someone who recently came out.
I am a 24 year old woman and I came out about a year ago. My age group grew up with burgeoning social media and the birth of woke culture. I had always known I was a lesbian for a litany of reasons, but for some reason I just didn’t want to be. I dated men and found myself miserable the entire time. While going through the motions of these relationships, I felt comfort in knowing that if I did come out, I would not be met with any sort of anger or hate. Well, after almost getting married, I finally came out as a lesbian. It was nice, all I did was tweet it. My friends were all supportive and I received some very kind texts. For the few exes I did not end on bad terms with, I called them and told them as well. It was a nice experience. I was happy to finally have at least a small corner of my life know that I was a lesbian woman.
Then, I joined dating apps.
I was living in a fairly progressive city, so I downloaded two separate apps. Boy, was that a mistake. One of the apps is well-known, and instead of seeing lesbians (or bisexual) women on my feed, all I had was couples seeking a third and TIMs. The few solo women I did see on the app were all straight and looking for friends.
I went over to the other app, a lesbian/wlw focused one, hoping to have more luck.
Nope.
Now, I’m a decent-looking woman. I don’t have the prettiest face, but I take care of my body and skin and I dress nice so I can appear attractive and feel good about myself. On this app, you can see people who “like” you and you are given the choice to “like” back and begin a direct message.
Within an hour of setting up this profile, I had over 20 notifications. At first, I was really happy to have so many women interested in me. But it was not women, it was TIMs. All of them. A majority of them not making any effort to pass and featuring some truly vile fantasies in their biographies, along with almost pornographic photos. I was disgusted, but I felt bad for feeling that way. After all, I did grow up seeing myself as “woke” and “accepting” of all people so long as they weren’t hurting anyone with their choices. I chose to air my frustrations to a popular lesbian subreddit that I assumed was run and used by women. Nope. It took my post a few minutes before it went down, and in those few minutes I received some of the worst messages I’ve ever read. I deleted the account as a whole and blocked all lesbian subreddits.
I have yet to date since coming out and I have made zero lesbian friends. I am so angry that all of these women spaces are now controlled by the feelings of mentally unwell men. I know coming out was good for me, but sometimes it feels like it was just a big waste of time.
Sorry this is so long and doesn’t really have any purpose apart from getting my feelings out there. I’m just grateful I finally found a community where I can say this.
Sounds like a medical emergency.
Right, it sounds like he was having some drug-induced seizure.
What slays me is that so many people believe this nonsense. I say this as a woman who is multi orgasmic under the right conditions. Women should know it’s nonsense because they have a female body and many men should know its nonsense because they’ve observed female orgasm. Instead people think that depraved men on hormones are orgasming in a way no human ever has male or female. I guess the delusion and magical thinking spreads in all directions.
My guess is that this is because of porn. Many men these days have likely seen more faked porn female orgasms than real ones.
I don't really care what kind of orgasms depraved men on hormones have, and I certainly don't want to investigate.
I think there's more larp than we realize in online trans spaces. I wouldn't be surprised if most of them aren't trans in anything but their minds and maybe some secret crossdressing, maybe some grey-market hormones. Almost, if not everything, TIMs say about being trans is stuff they imagine or have been exposed to in porn. Women don't have 20-minute "full body" orgasms. No man on hormones is going to have that. But men sure would idealize that.
oh yeah. I typically don't run around saying it bc men are repulsive about it but I can give myself orgasm after orgasm - basically for as long as I want. all day if I got the time! but I don't lmfao. I typically will have 3-5 when I masturbate at all, even if it's only about 20 minutes. the orgasm and aftershocks can last maybe two minutes before I can start again. occassionally don't have to stop at all in between.
but this has only ever once happened with a partner (and he was male shockingly, he just.... found great joy in it I guess idk lmfaooo) and never ONCE have I experienced a single 20 minute orgasm. these scrotes are so fucking stupid.
This is exactly what I was getting at. Thank you for having the moxie to detail it. We know so little about women’s sexuality. It doesn’t help that female sexuality is only viewed through a male lens either. So, orgasms a plenty if you’re a woman, at least in theory but a big no to the 20 minute full body nonsense.
😅😅 thank you. I've always been a fairly open person when asked questions. I guess ultimately I see it as fairly clinical when asked questions - I watched a LOT of Talk Sex with Sue Johanson growing up and she gave me a lot of sexual confidence and knowledge and I guess that clinical view of "almost everybody fucks, get over it" while at the same time teaching me mad respect for other ppl's boundaries. like I shared this here on a woman's site in a clinical way - I didn't go to work and show a coworker my vibrator and tell them about my orgasms and squeal about how uwu they were. my partner and I are both chronically ill as well so we don't get to be intimate with each other as often as we like but we're both very open about our alone activities which I was VERY worried about til I talked to my therapist - who laughed and said holy hell that's more intimate than most couples married for 30 years XD
so yeah thank you thank you thank you to Sue Johanson for teaching me so much including that female sexuality and pleasure is important, to never let some man pull some bullshit in the bedroom when I've already said no, to respect myself and my body and to respect my partner. and so so so much more about sexual health. I had very few negative sexual experiences because of Sue Johanson, straight up.
I'm not sure how many of these men actually have observed female orgasm.
Likely very few, considering it would require them to get a woman to voluntarily have sex with them, and then they'd have to be good in bed, which ... yeah.
The older AGPs who got married and fathered multiple children before transing might have observed a genuine female orgasm (though I wouldn't count on it) but the generation that grew up with internet porn? Unlikely.
They seem to be calling themselves "dolls" a lot now.
I'm happy to call them dolls if they'd stop calling themselves women.
Looking at the profile pic, this person better get used to those alone-orgasms.
If any man in a dress ever turned to me and said “isn’t being a woman wonderful?” they would spend the next 20 min picking up their teeth from the floor
Looking at the profile pic, I don't think this one has any teeth left to pick up.
Dear god that photo…
The AGP pointy chin, long face, and smirk strikes once again to make a man look like a serial killer even as a tiny spot on my screen.
Someone should really tell him he needs to get that seizure disorder checked out, lol.
Pointy chins are masculine now...?
I think it's the way they angle the camera and their heads, take a selfie from above with their head tucked down and angled. It creates that pointy chin look. Anyone could do it, but AGPs love to do it a lot because they think it makes them look sexy/feminine/girly, and in fact it probably does help to hide their adam's apple and hefty jawline.
Yes, precisely. It’s the angle. But also, a lot of AGPs tend to have a certain Hapsburg esque archetype for whatever reason… a lot of incels and school shooters seem to have it too. Obviously this isn’t scientific in any way, just something you notice
The last living organism I heard of having a 20-minute orgasm was a swine. Guess this is more proof of that.
He looks like a forest goblin lmao
I thought it was pigs that had 20~30 minute orgasms.
Well, that kinda tracks. 🤭