I don’t put rainbow flag outside my home because my sexuality isn’t my personality or something I need to project to the world. Meanwhile, the heterosexual couple next door has one. Its the cool thing to do, I guess.

Haha, I remembered when I had to work an extra shift because my heterosexual coworker wanted to go attend the pride parade with his girlfriend. He wanted to get freebies from all the companies attending and look at funny gay people. I had to work an extra shift short staffed. Good times. The whole movement has been co-opted. While they're having fun, we're losing our community.

Many of my neighbors have the progress pride flag up year round, but the handful of homes that I know are occupied by gay couples have nothing. It feels rather telling. One of my neighbors, who I know are a heterosexual couple, have so much rainbow stuff around their house that I assumed they must have been siblings or something and one of them was gay maybe? No, once I met them, I realized their Facebook is full of wedding photos. There's a couple around the corner from me, also flying the progress flag, who are also a heterosexual married couple, but she has a quirky haircut, so I guess she's queer. Some other woman also lives with them, and I'm assuming it's her sister because they look alike, but maybe there's more going on than I realize. Regardless, they've been letting historical pieces of their home fall off for the last 5+ years with no effort to restore it, so I lowkey hate them.

There's a neighbor who bought a house that used to be covered in Trump flags and hung up the bisexual flag, and I love the irony and the specificity of it. I never see the bisexual pride flag, and I guess in my mind, if that's what you're proud of, then fly that one.

It's just trendy. It's trendy to be supportive of "lgbtq+ community". It's the same thing as people praising rebelliousness and individuality as abstract concepts or as something that was done in the past, but hating it when encountering it in real life. I personally don't see it as privilege because being straight for a woman is total oppression, I see it as an extension of conformism and doing what they were told.

I haven't bought or owned rainbow merch in a long time and have since thrown out whatever I had. The alphabet has no regard or place for me and uses the letter "L" as a false support, and subscription to a movement that has long since abandoned us. I now soapbox about lesbianism and feminism. I don't speak on the alphabet, or the "community," I speak for women and lesbians only. The L really needs to be removed from the alphabet, not out of opposition from us, but due to abandonment of us by them.

Most of these charlatans don't even know the rainbow has nothing to do with us anymore. They don't even know our history and the present farce the rainbow has become. It's become the present day WWJD or Live Strong bracelet, as ardent, and activist as wearing the jersey of the local sports team.

It always helps to look at it through different lenses,

In misogyny, I feel like female homosexuality is put on a scale as to how much it can benefit men. Awful, I know, but bare with me,

When we see the more dormant elements of female homosexuality, like a bisexual woman who has settled with her male partner. A lot of people see her sexuality more as a boon or a buffer to her male partner instead of it's own credible and equal thing. It's treated as a positive, and received positively because it's more of a "Great for her, but also benefits me" when presented in the couple (straight up misogyny and bi-erasure).

But this is where we get to the mess of it,

I would argue that when presented with such commentary, most bi women brush it off as a joke or even follow suit with the thinking (seeing woman as 'fuckable' and men as 'datable').

Which I can imagine is as to why we lesbians find the behaviour so off-putting,

Because their self-tagging with rainbow gear is seen as plus and treated as a benefit through the gaze of misogyny. And they sometimes celebrate and encourage that misogyny.

Whereas when a lesbian is a known lesbian, we don't benefit men, and our representation is a reminder of our lack of availability to men.

So conclusively, where I think some bi women absolutely need to be held accountable for their awful mindsets in upholding these notions,

However, I don't think they're solely to blame for the misconstrued support difference between a lesbian and a het-partnered bi woman,

I'd have to think about this one more though