it would be nice if 'lesbian' meant lesbian

Posted October 1, 2020 by ghostparrot in Lesbians

How do people in here feel about women in relationships with men using the term lesbian (or gay) to describe themselves?

I just discovered that an author whose writing I really admire, and who has referred to herself as either a lesbian or gay multiple times in interviews, actually has a husband. I came across this accidentally through her wikipedia page, and the sources on there check out. I feel uncomfortable bringing names into this, so I'll keep that info hush, but I wanted to vent.

I'm pretty shocked but I guess I shouldn't be. There seem to be a ton of bisexual women keen to throw the term 'lesbian' around. It just really bothers me because it makes people (esp. straight men) interpret the label as something flexible. When I say I'm a lesbian, I MEAN I'm a lesbian- and that's what I assume when I hear other people use it!

I'll still be reading her books because they're fantastic, but I'm super confused/a bit hurt by this info. (I know it's someone else's private life, so I don't really have a right to be offended, but it just sucks to see someone I thought was kind-of like me, having a bit of mainstream success, seemingly misusing the label in what I've always felt was a pretty damaging way).

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Posted October 1, 2020 by ghostparrot

Edited October 1, 2020

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