Sad about bisexual woman friend who chooses men repeatively

Chit ChatSad about bisexual woman friend who chooses men repeatively

Posted February 26, 2024 by Angelsrage in Lesbians

I want to say this first before any lurkers read this and think "YOU ARE BIPHOBIC" or any of that crap. No, im just tired and frustrated. Lesbian dating is difficult. You have to go out of your way to hopefully find somebody, later find out they were just bicurious or what not. And you get sad scrolling through dating apps and seeing beautiful women-only to find out they have a fucking boyfriend and they are looking for a third(disgusting). Yea, it sucks sometimes and I feel hopeless thinking I will be single for life. I have a friend, a very close one, who is bisexual(shes been with women as well as men) but very much chooses men and for 2 years now has only been with men(even if they are a piece of shit). Im always the shoulder to cry on. I do everything for her. I drive her places, I take her out. I do love her. Years ago I used to have a major crush on her (this taught me I need to have boundaries with female friendships). She even admitted that she liked me at one point too and I am so sad that I see her running around with these guys who she gets mad at at some point and whops now hes a jerk. Im not saying lesbian relationships are perfect no. But I often think about I wish I had a chance with her but she only chooses men now and I just wish sometimes she didn't because I genuinely care about her. No, Im not having a pity party. Yea I would get over the rejection lol but I just don't get it. Can't she see that I put so much energy into her? Yea shes grateful yea ofc-I am not trying to toot my own horn here but i do alot more for her than any of her boyfriends and I just think I am frustrated because I know despite how much I do I will never be chosen. I feel so hopeless.

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Posted February 26, 2024 by Angelsrage

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