Embracing sexuality and gender nonconformity has helped me take pleasure in things I thought I hated. Anyone else?

Chit ChatEmbracing sexuality and gender nonconformity has helped me take pleasure in things I thought I hated. Anyone else?

Posted February 28, 2024 by GoldenBee123 in Lesbians

It’s wild how many things in life I grew up thinking I didn’t like, when in reality I just didn’t like the way gender roles and heteronormativity were pushing me to engage with the activities.

I “hated” clothing shopping until I stopped letting people goad me into trying on flimsy, tight, awkwardly-cut clothing from the women’s section and started buying clothes I actually like from the men’s section on my own.

I “hated” sports until I started watching women play, and felt the impact of watching athletes with bodies more comparable to mine play hard and do cool things.

I “hated” romantic media until I figured out how to find books and TV focused on lesbians (books especially- my enjoyment of reading has gone through the roof now that I know what to look for).

I “hated” going out to drink until I started going to lesbian meetups with predominantly female attendees

One of the greatest pleasures in adulthood is that the older I grow the better I am at identifying and engaging with activities/media that bring me joy. So often I find myself thinking “holy shit if I’d known about this at 14 I would have gone nuts!” And I’m only in my 20’s now. I can’t wait to see how much more cool stuff I’ve discovered by the time I’m old.

Anyone else relate?

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Posted February 28, 2024 by GoldenBee123

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