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Daily(ish) questionQuestion for the Femmes: What’s your style and how do you signal?
A lot of comments in the past here from other femmes is the annoying scenario that people assume you’re “straight” all because you dress feminine.
It makes sense to me then why the term “domme femme” has been making the rounds with other lesbians, because in order to be seen by other women who’s attention we are trying to get, we must be a little bit more assertive in signaling. At least that’s how I see the term at its face value, not going too into the actual semantics of it.
If I see a woman I like, I assess her vibe. If she’s vibing with me and likes my presence then I’ll go talk to her, I’ll make explicit and obvious eye contact and I’ll brush her arm with my hand lightly to see if she’s reciprocating my energy. It might be considered “assertive” by archaic standards, but it’s effective, intimate, and a positive way to signal that “I’m a lesbian and I’m into you”. Of course there’s also the wearing the keys on a carabiner on your pant leg which is another obvious signal I do. And short nails. Flashing the hands is very important!
I’m not high femme in that I wear high heels, get my nails done every few weeks, and wear makeup, things that to me only a high femme does. I like getting my hair done, I love wearing cute dresses and skirts, but I do so wearing sneakers. Practical comfort femme is me! 😆
I’d say I subscribe to the cottagecore and bohemian vibe, but like…elegant. If I had the money to dress completely how I’d want to look, I’d probably end up dressing more as old money rich auntie 😆 those two vibes end up making me feel like a goddess if I find the perfect hip hugging maxi dress that’s one solid color. I don’t like the overly in your face styles with skin showing everywhere, shreds of clothing, or tulle. Again, practical comfort!
So femmes, what’s your style and how do you signal?