I just got permabanned from reddit for nicely disagreeing with TIMs on the lesbian subs. I am sad that the days of u/millythedilly are gone.

Note: the name was a sarcastic reference to Dylan Mulvaney, with their silly nickname "Dilly". But instead of an AGP man making fun of women, I could be a woman intelligently commenting against AGP men.

Though a lot of my engagement on lesbian subreddits were mostly for fun, and to give advice to younger lesbians, there were things I did end up contributing to the community by the end of the day so am kind of considering how to move on from here:

• I was moderating the r/amilesbian sub and was the only mod for a while so I have no clue what might happen to the sub afterwards.

• I had a few very interesting chats - some even going very deep into what love is. I wonder how I could retrieve them or reconnect with these people?

• I was in a few private women-only subs like LiteralLesbians and am wondering how I can reconnect with them but also recreate this kind of space here on ovarit. There's a very special sense of camaraderie I rarely get to feel in real life

• I wrote some smut that was starting to get popular but lesbianactually mods took it down because it was homosexual and not about girldick. I want to keep on the resistance by spreading more actually lesbian smut onto real lesbians on reddit

• What could replace (or continue) my habit of downvoting bad trans/delulu comments on reddit? Yes it is petty but so fun! They can ban people but they cannot pretend that their actions will go without moral and social repercussions. They'll be downvoted until they realize that they're not being downvoted for transphobia but because their attitudes suck.

Observing trans moderators take over lesbian subreddits has been a pretty big lesson on tyranny and censorship. Spaces like r/actuallesbians are a graveyard of actual women being silenced by TIMs. r/Lesbianactually has been taken. Only r/ActuallyLesbian remains. If you're a lesbian on reddit, you should restrict 80-90% of your interaction to private subs and DMs with lesbians you find interesting penpals. I wasn't tranpshobic, but I definitely became so after seeing the way trans women acted on lesbian spaces. Because of trans women powertripping and silencing women, I ultimately began to resent them and actually realize the importance of pushing back, and began to look for a space like ovarit where I could finally be myself.

u/millythedilly began as a joke (sort of) but actually taught me so much about how to hold decent conversations with others and to push opinions in a kind and witty way. Milly became a lesbian redditor who had a style of lightness, playfulness, and wit around the delicate topics being discussed.

Overall I am seeking advice from older women. I don't want to be a keyboard warrior. But I also don't want to get brought down by delusional, chronically online, obsessed, tyrannical TIMs, as much as they keep power tripping on the reddit platform. I've learned what I had to learn about the human condition and AGP men on reddit. I sense that my enthusiasm towards lesbian voices would be better spent somewhere else.

I'm also crossing my fingers that someone who remembers me from reddit might see this and find a way out to help me. It would be amazing if someone screenshotted this and posted on one of the smaller subs for some discussion. I'll still be checking the smaller private subs because I love you all <3

I'd like to finish my post by saying, it has been more than a year with milly, and I am happy to pass onto the next lifetime away from the dark, lost place which is reddit. I realized how passionate I am about women's rights and how skilled I became with communications over time, and am looking forward for the next phase in this journey.