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Daily(ish) questionWhat behavior would you like to change?
Is there a behavior of yours that you would like to work on? Talk about it here and give each other support.
I’ve been working on changing a lot of the behaviors I don’t like about myself, but I still have a few I need to work on:
(1) ask for/accept help
(2) stop reading too much into others’ behaviors, especially what might seem like flirting but isn’t
(3) consume less sugar
Its so hard to decrease sugar intake, its literally in everything. Same with salt. I started baking my own bread because most breads are so sugary.
Luckily I only have to worry about sugar because I’m prescribed salt pills for a medical condition.
I need to stop doing the things I learned from therapy culture lol
I kind of feel like therapy culture prevented me from actually understanding myself for a while, in an ironic way.
Ugh I need to stop procrastinating. Its always been an issue. I was the student submitting assignments at 11:59 PM. I’ve gotten a lot better since then, but I still push off big things I need to tackle.
I relate to this so much. Have you ever tried breaking down tasks into smaller pieces that you can check off?
I'm "lazy". I procrastinate doing things that I should do and end up rushing shit last minute. I feel like I could get so many more things done in a day if I didn't have to spend an hour psyching myself up to actually do them.
This isn't very deep but I have got to stop picking at my face. Lately my stopping has only directed my compulsion towards my cuticles which is barely better.
Interesting question! There's a lot I have already changed throughout the years, and I am proud of that, especially because it's not always been easy. That said, interpersonal relationships has never been my forte and still aren't. It hasn't helped that in the past several years I haven't been in contact with many people (hence didn't have/haven't given myself the chance to "practice" getting better), but there's still a side of me that I would gladly get rid of, and that loudly proclaims my immaturity on that front. That is that I still have a tendency to behave veeeery awkwardly around women I find attractive, with the idiotic propensity to put up a tough front, try to impress and whatnot. I really dislike that I still fall back into that pattern, despite being aware that the lack of experience has played a huge part, and would love to be able to interact with women as my actual self, authentically, and not as a silly stereotypical teenage boy-like persona.🥲
I also have a tendency of acting dumber around women I like 😭 almost teenage-boy-esque. It’s like my intelligence goes out the window.
I dislike it so much!! Even while it's happening, I know "it's not me". It's so weird because it's really not part of my personality. I think it's more like a coping mechanism of some sort (coping with what? feelings of inadequacy? Insecurity? Fear? Not sure), or even some sort of way of escaping from actually interacting as me. I don't know. I'm not sure, but I know I would like to grow past this tendency and I also know I need to interact with people - and women specifically - more if I want to do that.
How do you frame this tendency in your case?
I just see it as posturing. It’s a natural human inclination that I just need to get around. I’ve found that if I admit feelings, whether they’re reciprocated or not, it gets easier to stop doing it.
I see. I do also see it as natural in its inception, but I personally can't stand the fact that I still have this tendency, which I see as very immature, at my current age. 🥲
I’ve realized most adults are teenagers when it comes to love
Maybe you're right and I'm just overstimating the effects of my inexperience when it comes to this particular aspect of life!
I'm sorry for finding this so funny but I do 🤭
Me in front of attractive women: 😐.... 🤖 07734
I'm working on stopping the stress-smiling. When I'm socialising my brain stops working and I just put on this smile and this weak and pathetic act of myself I feel so disassociated. I've been really hating it because I realise I'm playing for the patriarchy and female socialisation blabla my brain is wired with "see?? I'm being polite ^^ I'm not taking space!" ewww