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stern-as-steel [speaking as mod]March 14, 2024 - sticky

Because this circle automatically shows up on the ‘new’ page, a lot of women don’t realize that it’s in a restricted circle - especially when the post title is more general and more easily misinterpreted. Ovarit is small enough that a lot of women come to the site as a whole rather than to any individual circle, if that makes sense.

The developers are working on some features to help with the accidental wanderers, but for now just keep on reporting!

HoneycreeperBird LesbianMarch 14, 2024

Ah thank you Stern! Will do. I hope the developers continue to work on those features, I’d be elated to have something in place to keep out wanderers!

crispycherrypieMarch 14, 2024(Edited March 14, 2024)

I strongly suggest non-lesbians blocking the circle if you're worried about responding to posts.

HoneycreeperBird LesbianMarch 14, 2024(Edited March 14, 2024)

Why would I block this circle when I’m a lesbian and am in the right circle? The women who are NOT lesbians should be blocking this circle as this circle doesn’t apply to them

EDIT: if there was a way to make it so that only members of the lesbian circle could see the circle, I bet the mods would have done so already, but sadly that’s not feasible right now.

crispycherrypieMarch 14, 2024

"You" as a general you. I was adding to your post.

HoneycreeperBird LesbianMarch 14, 2024(Edited March 15, 2024)

Ah I gotcha!

mathloverMarch 14, 2024

How can someone not notice? I am a lesbian and am allowed in the Women circle. Het and bi women talk about problems in their relationships with men. I don't comment or offer advice.

HoneycreeperBird LesbianMarch 15, 2024

Exactly, like how hard is it not to know where you’re posting?

I get that maybe we just notice it more here because this is a restricted circle, but I honestly have not noticed anything like this in other circles

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[Deleted]March 14, 2024

I feel like some women just aimlessly wander in without giving it much thought,

but yes, please do respect the rules, Ovarit is the only permissible space allocated specifically for lesbians - we prefer it this way, it's why we've demanded it across every platform

LobselVithMarch 17, 2024

I agree. At least for the most part, I don't think it's intentional. Still, I'm completely with you and OP on this. There should be more attention paid to this and hopefully this post will help :)

HoneycreeperBird LesbianMarch 14, 2024

Yes, i think they comment without looking where they’re commenting which to me, like why is it they only wander into the lesbian circle by accident? They know where they’re posting everywhere else so why is it they miss that this is the Lesbian circle?

I usually assume a mistake before claiming malice, but it’s always the lesbian circle where this happens 😑

stern-as-steelMarch 14, 2024

They know where they’re posting everywhere else so why is it they miss that this is the Lesbian circle?

I’m not sure there’s reason to think users are usually aware of what circle they’re commenting in, particularly because it doesn’t usually make a difference. This is one of only a few restricted circles and the most active one of those, so it’s not unexpected that there would be the most violations here.

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