I think I prefer feminine women and I feel terrible about it

Serious DiscussionI think I prefer feminine women and I feel terrible about it

Posted June 19, 2024 by CryingInYourInbox in Lesbians

So I finally have a lady friend (yay!)

We met online and have had a couple dates and it's going really well. But something happened the other night that bothered me.

We were at a (straight) bar, drinking and having a great time. We're both on the softer butch side and it's pretty clear we're both lesbians and so I get out drinks and sit us in a section that's secluded, like with a door and everything.

The door is positioned behind my girlfriend, and at one point a woman opens the door and peeks through it just to see if anyone was on the other side.

She's pretty attractive, low cut top, well endowed, makeup, long hair. I see her, and my drunken brain kinda lights up. Thankfully she shuts the door and I didnt see her again. But I kinda notice how it made me feel for a split second.

My lady friend's lack of femininity is by no means a deal breaker and I'm really excited to take things further physically, but I just don't have that same "ding ding ding!" sort of reaction to women who aren't as feminine.

Is this gonna be a problem the further I get into things, and is there anything I can do about it? It's like this weird shitty discovery I made about myself, when I thought I was so open minded and enlightened, especially as someone who's not fucking feminine at all! I feel like I'm no better than a man.

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Posted June 19, 2024 by CryingInYourInbox

Edited June 19, 2024

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