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Daily(ish) questionWould you consider yourself a hopeless romantic?
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I think when I was younger, those romantic feelings were really intense. Not so much anymore.
I used to be romantic, at least in my private thoughts. I never acted on it unless you count writing and drawing. Now those feelings are completely dead, and so is the creativity that they prompted, sadly.
I'd say not, though I might have the potential to be one, probably just need someone to bring those feelings out? But if anyone needs a good example of what a "hopeless romantic" is, I highly recommend watching the movie Fried Green Tomatoes. That bee charmer scene is just... awww.
I still am so displeased in that movie that
I do love love, and daydream about having a wonderful romance with a woman one day. I really want someone to do sweet things for haha.
I'm not sure if I count as a hopeless romantic because I don't fall in love quickly, believe in "love at first sight," or expect real life to live up to idealized fantasies...so maybe I'm just a regular romantic? 😅
Haha. I guess I still consider it under “hopeless” because I feel like the world is just so against us sometimes.
I’m the same as you, I have a lot of love to give and I wish I had a woman to give it to. I may get my head in the clouds sometimes, but my expectations are not idealized. I make sure of that. I still get plenty hurt with regular expectations, let alone unrealistic ones..
I absolutely am a hopeless romantic. It honestly aches more at my heart if I think about the fear of “if I’ll never find a woman to cherish in this life time”. I’d hope she in the end is looking for me too.
I really want to get married before my late thirties, but I also feel skeptical about the average relationship in this culture. Both straight people, and from what little I’ve seen, gay people as well can get used to some pretty dysfunctional dynamics in married life. I don’t believe in being completed by romantic love or anything like that. The divorce rate in the United States is like 50% for a reason, and those are only the ones miserable enough to make it worth calling off.
I don't even consider myself a romantic, much less a hopeless one. I do want to read up more on romance as there's not much I know about it.
Yes, but I wish I wasn't.
It's helped ME discover who I am, and what kind of niche I was looking for,
But to others,
It was something to exploit.
Whether it be my time, my attentions, mock dates (That I didn't know were 'fake'), they wanted to experience what it was like to feel 'wanted' by a woman.
So, still yes - but guarded. I code-switch between myself with other lesbians, and this kind of grayed-out version I have for literally everyone else. Nobody, but those fully invested in women deserve to ever see my heart on my sleeve.
I’ve been burned many times by those women who just want the attention but are as straight as a pole. I stay away from straight women as much as I can, which obviously is hard since I don’t have many lesbian friends, but as soon as they get disrespectful I drop them. I don’t need that kind of pain or drama in my life.
Yeah, it's insane.
Straight and bi women seem to believe that just because they're also women, they don't need to respect my boundaries.
I've been flat-out skin-to-skin groped on multiple occasions,
They write off my offense as something to joke about. I hate it so much. Because it literally screams 'I see you as men see you'.
I've been treated like I have a man's intentions and view of women before. It's so revolting. I've had women assume that I just want sex with them like men do. Then they think they can use it to their advantage when they want sex too, and then try to put me down for only caring about sex, when that's not the case at all. Its like, okay, I didn't want you in the first place, but now I want to remove you from my company entirely.
Yeah, the whiplash is dirty,
They default us to automatically being attracted to them, because the world men have built around these women, sets them up to be commodified and desired exactly as such. Something I personally find degrading and demoralizing, given who it truly benefits, but I suppose some could normalize it and take pride in that application (I'm actually not entirely sure the nature of this)?
The issue is when it's compounded with patriarchal attitudes that same-sex dynamics are 'lesser', or 'for men',
And you get exactly this,
Women who treat you like men do with no sense of self-control, BUT ALSO,
Have the social shield of the patriarchy to verbally position you ALWAYS at a disadvantage.
She's handsy, and you're not reciprocating? You've made her feel unwanted, and society will not look kindly to that.
She propositioned you to have a threesome with her disgusting crusty boyfriend, that you rejected? Clearly you're a man-hating bigot who doesn't see her sexuality as 'valid'
She tried to forcefully kiss you to entertain male patrons, in which, you pushed her off you, surprised and in shock? Obviously you're a mood-killer, "It's just a kiss", that you should have just "let happen"
The nature of our society will ALWAYS permit these women afforded excuses in treating us transactionally.
The worst part, is since these women live and breathe the patriarchy, and since men will happily reward ANY behaviour that exploits other women for their benefit, there's very little incentive for these women to change.
Which is why I'm not holding my breath.