Oh man, do I love older women! I can't wait until I'm in my 50s to have a girlfriend whos also in her 50s without the potential power imbalance.

Well first of all, I like them to live in the same city. :P Second, I like them to be secure, funny, confident, trustworthy and affectionate, but I like that at any age. It helps to be musical or into dancing on occasion. I like drinking but I don't like people who can't handle their liquor and get sloppy, so that's sometimes more of an issue with younger women. My biggest age gap is about 14 years and I have a rule -- no one under 30 -- because I believe you don't know yourself well enough until you're into your 30s, and that means you're more likely to break my heart. :P

My partner is 5 years older and that's the biggest gap I've had. Hypothetically I'd go no more younger than that, but age seems to matter less and less as people get older and bigger gaps are common. My partner's previous girlfriend was 15 years older and they got together when my partner was only 23, that seems really creepy to me. There's a huge difference between young 20's and someone about to turn 30 like you are though. Since you don't have a super young lifestyle with roommates and you've seriously dated women already, probably a lot of older women will be open to you.

I'm in my thirties and would be quite open to an age gap relationship, as long as we are quite compatible. I don't particularly want kids so someone who already has grown up children would be a huge plus to me, as lots of women my age either want kids or already have young ones. I have crushed on younger women too, but would be more concerned about her changing a lot as she matures. I don't think there's anything strange about it!

Damn. It seems older women aren't that interested in me even though I prefer dating older. I always end up with women my age, maybe a year or two older, or someone younger. Maybe when I'm in my late 30s or 40s older women will start looking my way. lol

My wife is just over 4 years younger than I am, and that is the biggest age gap I've had in relationships. We met when we were both in our 20's and I can't say age played much of a role in our relationship. I think it becomes more of an issue when you get really old and one person is still active and other one is not. I would not date a woman in her 20's at this stage because I think there is too much difference between the generations. In our friendships we find that we have far more in common with our generation and older generations than younger generations.

And older lesbian fell in love with me about three or four years ago. I was creeped out. She was early fifties and I was early thirties.

I don't think it was just her age. She behaved in a predatory way that put me off older women. I only ever get that vibe from older women, and there's the fact that I look like a teenager so that makes it worse. /Shrug/