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Finally Here and I Am Happy
Not to be sappy or come across as weird but I am really, really happy to be here. I was given a code by a lovely ovarit user over on SaidIt after I made a post about feeling isolated after my friend group of five lesbians and a trans man became one lesbian (me) and six trans men. Life got busy and I didn’t redeem the access code until today but I am looking forward to being part of this community.
Growing up in a religious household has been difficult for me and my journey towards authenticity, I desperately wanted to be straight and to make a long story short, let’s just say that teenage and young adult me was taken advantage of in some pretty bad ways by some bad people. I am grateful to this community as I lurked here without an account for a long time and you all have made me feel safe and heard in a world where being a female homosexual is considered passé and boring if not outright controversial. Looking forward to meeting you all and once again, I can’t thank everyone enough.
You can invite them but don't be too shocked if their reaction is extremely negative. It's a long road from "There's no LGB without the TQ" to "I am no longer making excuses for the misogyny and homophobia in the TQ community and I don't want to be around them."
These posters sound like they've started down the path, but they don't seem to be near the end. Maybe I'm wrong.
I think so, it's really important to get people to see there are actually spaces out there that are not trans-infested.
Ovarit has bug barrier sprayed around all the edges, inside and out!
If you haven’t done so already, let me know and I can send them a message!
I didn't because I am fearful of sending messages from my reddit account
Oh, they're ready! Even if they're not yet peaked, it probably won't be long before it happens and they'll end up here eventually.
If they're still talking about sapphic lesbians I don't think they're even close to ready to come here. Namedropping ovarit? Yes. Inviting them if they're not ready on their own? No. If they lurk here for a while they will either come around or not and request entry at their own leisure.
"The only thing out there vaguely like that is Ovarit but it's pretty TERFy".
The truly curious will come.
The fact that they don’t realize that the “TERF” label is literally just used by TRAs as a slur against us for speaking common sense that most normal people understand and believe — it’s so annoying lol. 🤦♀️ It’s such an echo-chamber that they have never even stopped to think on what circumstances would it be necessary to be able to differentiate between biological females and males who identify as “trans-women”.
They’ll realize eventually that there’s hardly any difference between us and them aside from us just wanting everyone to acknowledge reality and preserving women’s rights. They assume that we lack compassion for those with gender dysphoria, and they’re under the misconception that “TERF” means bigot. :/ One day they’ll get what we’re saying, but it’ll be a while, I’m guessing.
(I still can’t get over how men —both TIMs/TRAs on one side and incels/red-pillers/conservatives on the other— have twisted the word “feminist” to equal “bigot”. Such insanity.)
Same with the "cis-lesbian" terminology. Like, just say lesbian...
They may be using that term because it's the closest you can get to saying "real lesbian" without getting banned.
It's just the term younger people use. You have to realize not everyone is hyper aware of all this online bullshit.
Same with wlw
I mean I agree, but in my experience I just found that women that use "sapphic" are more likely to align with trans ideology, while wlw are often fence cases.
Fair enough! Haven't been active on the lesbian dating scene in quite a while.
Great idea. They might still be in their "terfs are evil!" phase
Hate reading is the fastest way to Peak.
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